It is immature and petty. But, hey, what he's doing to you is just as bad. It's funny seeing all the comments from boys(shocking that they're all boys, isn't it?) who have no problem with what he's doing to you but are horrified by the idea of you turning the tables on him.
I think the concern about him turning violent is legitimate, though, it's definitely not paranoia. Lots of boys who don't seem like the violent type can turn violent in a heartbeat. One solution to that would be handcuffs. I don't know what kind of sex you two are into, but you could tell him you want to try something new, handcuff him to the bed, then safely say whatever you want and bail. Or get something like pepper spray or mace, which would be a good idea to carry around in your purse anyway. If you're going to follow through on this, you definitely need to factor in the possibility of him turning violent...because, again, I cannot stress enough that guys who "aren't the violent type" can and do turn violent.
Of course, there are also other ways to get revenge. For example, you could ghost him. Get him all worked up on the phone or in texts or however you communicate, get him really looking forward to your next meeting, and then don't show up. And never respond to him again.
The last thing I will say is remember that there's almost certainly going to be a day when you look back and regret doing this...I don't expect telling you that to make you not do it, I just say it as a warning that you don't want to go too far over the top. You don't need to hurt him as much as you want to right now in order to feel like you've gotten back at him.
Should I sleep with him/tease him to hurt him?
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It is immature and petty. But, hey, what he's doing to you is just as bad. It's funny seeing all the comments from boys(shocking that they're all boys, isn't it?) who have no problem with what he's doing to you but are horrified by the idea of you turning the tables on him.
I think the concern about him turning violent is legitimate, though, it's definitely not paranoia. Lots of boys who don't seem like the violent type can turn violent in a heartbeat. One solution to that would be handcuffs. I don't know what kind of sex you two are into, but you could tell him you want to try something new, handcuff him to the bed, then safely say whatever you want and bail. Or get something like pepper spray or mace, which would be a good idea to carry around in your purse anyway. If you're going to follow through on this, you definitely need to factor in the possibility of him turning violent...because, again, I cannot stress enough that guys who "aren't the violent type" can and do turn violent.
Of course, there are also other ways to get revenge. For example, you could ghost him. Get him all worked up on the phone or in texts or however you communicate, get him really looking forward to your next meeting, and then don't show up. And never respond to him again.
The last thing I will say is remember that there's almost certainly going to be a day when you look back and regret doing this...I don't expect telling you that to make you not do it, I just say it as a warning that you don't want to go too far over the top. You don't need to hurt him as much as you want to right now in order to feel like you've gotten back at him.