Should i sleep my way to a promotion?

Why don’t you take the high road and tell the boss you’ll report him to the labor board, his superiors, or whatever authority prevents such folly.
Otherwise you’re a paid whore and you’ll be on your back at his whim.

Report him.

So I talked it through with my husband, not an easy conversation but we got there. He really wants me to get the job, sees the long term benefits, but of course doesn’t want me sleeping with anyone else. I told him the chance of getting it if I don’t, are Slim. There’s a guy in purchasing who really wants it and is more qualified and experienced for the job than I am. He’s only been with the company about a year but was a high flying sales executive in his previous job. In reality my chances over him are zero but I told my husband there is a slim chance.

Anyway husband says if I sleep with him it’s only sex, he doesn’t want to know if I do or not, and would rather assume I got it on my own merits. He told me to apply regardless so fuck it I’m going to go all out for it.

If he wants to extort you you should extort him to get into that position. This type of people are usually pretty uncareful because they are in positions of power so should you get a recording of him saying that and he will do what ever you want, specially if he is married or in a couple.

No dont. Be amazing!!

I voted you should talk to your husband, because having sex with your boss is obviously what most people would consider cheating.

You could take the high road and refuse, but then talk to your women colleagues about this. If your scum-bucket of a boss has done this with you, then the odds are very good that he's done the same with other women. Your word alone may not mean anything, but if there are twenty women with similar stories, the guy is going to get at least a little of what he deserves.

Even if he owns the company, there are ways of using social media to make the lives of such dickheads uncomfortable.

Got the job💁😃

So it’s a done deal, he took me out to lunch yesterday and we spent the afternoon in a cheap hotel. I was pretty well on edge but a couple of glasses of wine chilled me out a bit.

He was actually a pretty good lover, I thought it would be seedy, a quick wham bam thank you mam and all over in 20 minutes or less. But he was actually really attentive like he was really into me. He was all over me kissing and massaging me. I wasn’t wearing any underwear, I felt that added to the seedy experience I was expecting and I also didn’t want him seeing my bra and knickers. I know that sounds really stupid but it’s how I felt.

He realised pretty quickly I was just wearing a skirt and jumper and had me out of them in the first 2 minutes. But then he gave me so much attention I was actually relaxing and enjoying myself. He eventually went down on me and gave me 2 orgasms before making love to me and giving me another one.

The interviews are on Monday so then I will find out if he is a man of his word.

Get his ass thrown in jail

I would definitely report him. Maybe wear a wire, approach him about how much you want the promotion, and get his vile ass recorded saying it. If you can get a hidden camera in there it's even better.

This boss of yours is precisely the kind of guy who deserves to die of testicular cancer.🤣😃😄

Just remember, #metoo works both ways.

The thing to keep in mind is that this won't be a one time thing. Sexual predators never leave their victims alone after one time. He's going to expect this from you regularly for as long as you work for him, and if you try to stop, he will make your work life hell or fire you.

This is a can of worms that you do not want to open.

You tell your husband, sue this mother fucker and get him fired and get compensation

Well if you record him saying it, I don't think it'll hold up in court since recording him is illegal. But you don't need to threaten him with lawsuits anyway since it'd be much more effective to threaten with showing the recording to his wife/girlfriend, his family and all his colleagues.

I voted "Forget about the job" I have a better idea!!

What you should do is go to discuss this proposition with him and record him with your phone while he's making this proposition. Then get a lawyer and sue him for sexual harassment for about ten times what the annual pay would be for that job!! I can almost guarantee you would win the case and if he has a wife at home then imagine the sweet justice this pig would endure!!

Just saying if you do sleep with him that won't be the end of it, he and every other guy will be trying to sleep with you non-stop.
Also it will likely be expected of you to do it each time you want a promotion or pay raise.

I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't hurry about reporting either. This might get you in trouble, but I personally wouldn't want my spouse to sell herself, no matter the price or the benefits. I could get the whole world and a front seat in heaven and I still wouldn't do it if I were you.

If you did it, who's to say your boss wouldn't use other threats to make you do it again do it again?

Sex for a promotion is the honorable way to get it.

As someone whose worked in sales for twenty year plus, and whose current basic is well over £100k; I’d have to say, don’t do it. You’ll regret it. Hold onto your own moral code, 30k a year and an Audi A4 isn’t worth your own self worth.

Think about your husband also. I’ve been in many situations where I’ve been tempted to take the quick route however the risk had always been too great and perhaps if I’d done a few things differently I’d of been where I am now a lot sooner - however, there’s one thing you take to the grave and that’s your integrity. I’d suggest looking for a similar role elsewhere, that type of management is poisonous.

I would discuss it with your husband. Btw your boss is an idiot, for giving you this opportunity in the #metoo era. I say go for it if your hubby is fine, but cheating and not telling your husband sets a really bad precedent it's much easier to do something again once you've done it once. I don't think this is that bad of your boss tbh if he owns the company he should be able to promote who he wants, if he doesn't own the company though then that's a bit fucked up.

Yeah, then you can speak out about it years later and be a hero

It's JUST sex!

I would not talk to your husband about this at all. I am sure he would be pissed that you are actually considering it.

Here is the worst case senario. Suppose you decide to have sex with this guy and then he gives the promotion to someone else? If you have no proof the sexual act happened you would have been sucked in. Another thing to consider is if you got the job this joker might want you to keep screwing him to keep it.

Think carefully. Bottom line. I would not do it. Of course he will proposition another woman if you turn him down.

Thank you everyone for your views I’ve decided I will discuss it with my husband today

Tall to your husband if he says yes do it, and if the boss ever tries for a second time say no, obtain a record I g device catch him doing that then report him if he does that again

Is your marriage worth more than £13 000? From what you're saying, the answer is definitely yes. Don't worry about the car.

dont sell your self your worth more then

FUCKING WHORES

You need to think about finding another job/employer. It sounds like if you say no you will just suffer anyway. I would politely decline, while secretly recording. Start a video on your phone prior to walking into his office. Be genuine without bringing up his advancements. Hopefully, he will over-speak or cross the line, at which point you can speak to someone higher or the police in some regard with your recording(s). You may then have a lawsuit you can take advantage of for being put in such a ridiculous position.

If you don't want to look for another job, it's at least something to consider and keep as a thought in the back of your mind. Hopefully if you politely decline the offer (and continue to act as if you don't understand that he has any other motive or proposition in mind), he will back off and may eventually end up giving you the promotion anyway.

And have no job. Oh well could of had a romp and more cash

Quick blowy and make yr pussy the boss