There comes a point when medical intervention stops being a positive, caring thing, and turns into abuse and cruelty. Every living creature dies, and just because medicine can keep a body functioning at a basic level for longer, that doesn't mean everything possible should - or must - be done.
The expected lifespan of a Golden Retriever is about twelve years. The fact that your dog is a mix might affect that, but canine lifespans are usually related to the size of the dog, not the breed. He's had a good run, and it's extremely unlikely that he will miraculously become better.
The poor dog isn't being kept alive for his own sake, he's being kept alive because your mother can't see that the responsible, kind thing would be to let him go to sleep one last time. She's being selfish, and this is really about her own feelings, not the dog's welfare (or yours).
When I first met my wife, her mother had a geriatric Shih Tzu. He'd always been an aggressive shit due to bad treatment when he was a pup, but he was a totally obnoxious little asshole by the time I first met him. Which was hardly surprising, since he had multiple health issues, the most obvious of which was some sort of ulcer around his anal area which make him reek.
My stupid mother-in-law wouldn't consider having him put down, even though he was hell to live with, couldn't be touched, could only hobble around, and clearly was a very miserable dog. I think at least part of what that was about for her was that, being elderly herself and not in the best of health, she somehow made the connection between the dog being euthanized, and her fear that someone might decide to have her put down one day.
The veterinarians, of course, were happy to continue taking her money to keep the pathetic dog alive, no matter how crap the quality of his life was. Eventually, the dog had some sort of stroke. When he was lying there incapable of doing anything but breathe, my mother-in-law finally accepted that the poor beast should be put to sleep, rather than be allowed to waste away for another week or so.
Which just confirmed what her reluctance to do this earlier had really been about. The dog was unconscious, and so he wasn't suffering any longer, but she couldn't bear to look at him in the state he was in, so she brought that to a rapid conclusion.
Obviously, the fate of your dog is in your mother's hands, and if she wants to keep on spending money on him and refusing to see the reality of how he is, that's up to her. How you deal with this clearly depends on the dynamic between your mother and you aand any other family members who are involved in his care or have to live with him.
For some reason, your mother feels the need to keep the dog alive and she's unable to let him go. Maybe you need to talk to her and try to figure out what's really going on in her head.
Yeah I agree
I have a puppy shin tzu as we speak and she is healthy. But she hasn’t visited the vet because my mom is too busy spending her time and money on our dog
And the vets where I live don’t care about animals. They’ll claim any dog is dying, as long as they get money. If the dog is over 7-10 here it’s going to be told to be put down. And they’ll preform tests without permission and overpriced. Not to mention they take advantage here and make you spend 1-2k on a single visit.
I think she is afraid but putting him down is cheaper at one vet I know. About €50-100. And she spent wayyy too much just for him. She also did the same with her true love dog for 16 years, until she died of heart failure, kneel cougj, VD, and something else
I keep telling her but she claims he is okay. She even just woke me up last night at around 4am telling me to make hotdogs for him to take his pills.
But I feel like speaking to her, but my family keeps tell her to keep him. Every time she says she’ll put him down, she goes “I’ll wait a week” “I’ll do it” she has done it for almost a year now
Sometimes I ask my dog to just let go. But most of or animals never died on their own, only being put down by he VET because the vet themselves had to influence my parent to do it. And the only times she mainly said yes was because most of the animals she didn’t like as much as the current dog and her former female dog that died a year ago, as started earlier , from issues
It takes her years to agree to. I’ll try to talk to her. It’s just she isnt the type of mother that will accept opinions from her kids, she is the type to assume smart mouthing even if I say it respectfully and directly
One way or another, and sooner or later, the dog will die.
Everything you say makes me think that what you should really be thinking about is your relationship with your mother, and how you can get out from under her thumb.
Thank you for your honest response
I told her an hour ago,
He is going on Saturday, if he is alive by then
Your comment gave me a bit of courage. I think the real sign was that he stopped eating
***Update***
Nevermind the dog put his head up after she forced electrolytes into his mouth and now she is saying “he is not dying yet he is just dehydrated “
And now I’m forced to be a 24/7 care nanny while she is at work, force feeding him energy drinks . Thanks for the advice, nothing I do works, even with my honest opinion. Now she won’t even listen and argues. And I’m just waiting and literally asking for him to go because I see in his eyes he doesn’t even want to stay. And I can barely stand to go near my mother at this point, because it isn’t fair to him and the rest of the animals (that she barely notices)
I'm fairly sure you vestibular disease? VD is an abbreviation of Venereal Disease, which is the old name for Sexually Transmitted Infection/Disease, hence my confusion.
Should I put my dog down? (old, sick, emotional)
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For fuck sake.
There comes a point when medical intervention stops being a positive, caring thing, and turns into abuse and cruelty. Every living creature dies, and just because medicine can keep a body functioning at a basic level for longer, that doesn't mean everything possible should - or must - be done.
The expected lifespan of a Golden Retriever is about twelve years. The fact that your dog is a mix might affect that, but canine lifespans are usually related to the size of the dog, not the breed. He's had a good run, and it's extremely unlikely that he will miraculously become better.
The poor dog isn't being kept alive for his own sake, he's being kept alive because your mother can't see that the responsible, kind thing would be to let him go to sleep one last time. She's being selfish, and this is really about her own feelings, not the dog's welfare (or yours).
When I first met my wife, her mother had a geriatric Shih Tzu. He'd always been an aggressive shit due to bad treatment when he was a pup, but he was a totally obnoxious little asshole by the time I first met him. Which was hardly surprising, since he had multiple health issues, the most obvious of which was some sort of ulcer around his anal area which make him reek.
My stupid mother-in-law wouldn't consider having him put down, even though he was hell to live with, couldn't be touched, could only hobble around, and clearly was a very miserable dog. I think at least part of what that was about for her was that, being elderly herself and not in the best of health, she somehow made the connection between the dog being euthanized, and her fear that someone might decide to have her put down one day.
The veterinarians, of course, were happy to continue taking her money to keep the pathetic dog alive, no matter how crap the quality of his life was. Eventually, the dog had some sort of stroke. When he was lying there incapable of doing anything but breathe, my mother-in-law finally accepted that the poor beast should be put to sleep, rather than be allowed to waste away for another week or so.
Which just confirmed what her reluctance to do this earlier had really been about. The dog was unconscious, and so he wasn't suffering any longer, but she couldn't bear to look at him in the state he was in, so she brought that to a rapid conclusion.
Obviously, the fate of your dog is in your mother's hands, and if she wants to keep on spending money on him and refusing to see the reality of how he is, that's up to her. How you deal with this clearly depends on the dynamic between your mother and you aand any other family members who are involved in his care or have to live with him.
For some reason, your mother feels the need to keep the dog alive and she's unable to let him go. Maybe you need to talk to her and try to figure out what's really going on in her head.
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Yeah I agree
I have a puppy shin tzu as we speak and she is healthy. But she hasn’t visited the vet because my mom is too busy spending her time and money on our dog
And the vets where I live don’t care about animals. They’ll claim any dog is dying, as long as they get money. If the dog is over 7-10 here it’s going to be told to be put down. And they’ll preform tests without permission and overpriced. Not to mention they take advantage here and make you spend 1-2k on a single visit.
I think she is afraid but putting him down is cheaper at one vet I know. About €50-100. And she spent wayyy too much just for him. She also did the same with her true love dog for 16 years, until she died of heart failure, kneel cougj, VD, and something else
I keep telling her but she claims he is okay. She even just woke me up last night at around 4am telling me to make hotdogs for him to take his pills.
But I feel like speaking to her, but my family keeps tell her to keep him. Every time she says she’ll put him down, she goes “I’ll wait a week” “I’ll do it” she has done it for almost a year now
Sometimes I ask my dog to just let go. But most of or animals never died on their own, only being put down by he VET because the vet themselves had to influence my parent to do it. And the only times she mainly said yes was because most of the animals she didn’t like as much as the current dog and her former female dog that died a year ago, as started earlier , from issues
It takes her years to agree to. I’ll try to talk to her. It’s just she isnt the type of mother that will accept opinions from her kids, she is the type to assume smart mouthing even if I say it respectfully and directly
And then she will assume I dislike the dog.
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One way or another, and sooner or later, the dog will die.
Everything you say makes me think that what you should really be thinking about is your relationship with your mother, and how you can get out from under her thumb.
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Thank you for your honest response
I told her an hour ago,
He is going on Saturday, if he is alive by then
Your comment gave me a bit of courage. I think the real sign was that he stopped eating
***Update***
Nevermind the dog put his head up after she forced electrolytes into his mouth and now she is saying “he is not dying yet he is just dehydrated “
And now I’m forced to be a 24/7 care nanny while she is at work, force feeding him energy drinks . Thanks for the advice, nothing I do works, even with my honest opinion. Now she won’t even listen and argues. And I’m just waiting and literally asking for him to go because I see in his eyes he doesn’t even want to stay. And I can barely stand to go near my mother at this point, because it isn’t fair to him and the rest of the animals (that she barely notices)
WTF is kneel cougj? And the dog had venereal disease????
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Kennel cough is when the dog has a chronic cough, sometimes other symptoms but that’s the main. The dog literally sounds like a hog when it coughs.
And yeah they had VD, and kept getting dizzy, having seizures, and such. Nothing you would want
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I know what kennel cough is, but how would a dog get a sexually transmitted disease? What you're describing sounds like epilepsy
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No dogs are born with VD they don’t just get it. I meant viscticular disease, it has similar symptoms to epilepsy, but it’s for senior dogs only
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I'm fairly sure you vestibular disease? VD is an abbreviation of Venereal Disease, which is the old name for Sexually Transmitted Infection/Disease, hence my confusion.