I have to dissagree with the majority of commenters so far. If he's coming to see you, you should pay atleast half for gas, or you should be taking public transportation to come see him half of the time.
I don't think it's fair he's making more effort and more money to come see you than you are to see him.
Chances are that your boyfriend is going to say "I don't mind", but who wants to pay money when their girlfriend can pay half to come see them? Really?
I don't know. I agree with you, but I can't relate. I usually had a car and a job when I dated, and the men I dated also had a car and a job so we never really needed to negotiate rides.
I guess it would depend on how far away they live, because when I went to see a date, usually they weren't but a 10-15 minute drive away, and it's difficult to calculate the gas for that, so I just don't. But I'm pretty apathetic in many aspects of my life =/
Unless there's a legitimate reason you can't pay for gas / travel to see him once and a while on public transport, like you're poor (actually poor, not as in you can't afford an iphone 4 32GB so you've only got an iphone 4 8GB) then why not do a little compromising? It's just a nice thing to do.
Of course, if he actually insists on paying everything and insists on being the visitor not the visited, no worries.
I used to cycle a few miles to an old girlfriend's house once or twice a week, but because she'd sometimes cycle to see me it seemed more equal - we were both willing to put the effort in to see each other. I wasn't some kind of pizza delivery guy with a box full of loving, or a low class escort, and neither was she :P
So if he honestly doesn't mind, there's no issue. But if he's open to the idea of you paying some money, visiting him instead once and a while or making it up in another way (clean your mind out, I mean like paying for him at a restaurant or cinema etc.) it'd be a darn nice thing of you :)
I agree. My bf and I try to split the driving to see each other as much as we can. He comes down here a lot more often though becaue I have more friends in town, more to do on the weekends and whatnot. Anytime he's low on gas I'll pay, it's not even a question since he does more of the driving. (Honestly I think the biggest reason is his car speakers are way better than mine >.>)
should i pay for my boyfriends gas if he comes 2 see me everyday ?
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I have to dissagree with the majority of commenters so far. If he's coming to see you, you should pay atleast half for gas, or you should be taking public transportation to come see him half of the time.
I don't think it's fair he's making more effort and more money to come see you than you are to see him.
Chances are that your boyfriend is going to say "I don't mind", but who wants to pay money when their girlfriend can pay half to come see them? Really?
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I don't know. I agree with you, but I can't relate. I usually had a car and a job when I dated, and the men I dated also had a car and a job so we never really needed to negotiate rides.
I guess it would depend on how far away they live, because when I went to see a date, usually they weren't but a 10-15 minute drive away, and it's difficult to calculate the gas for that, so I just don't. But I'm pretty apathetic in many aspects of my life =/
Totally agree with you.
Unless there's a legitimate reason you can't pay for gas / travel to see him once and a while on public transport, like you're poor (actually poor, not as in you can't afford an iphone 4 32GB so you've only got an iphone 4 8GB) then why not do a little compromising? It's just a nice thing to do.
Of course, if he actually insists on paying everything and insists on being the visitor not the visited, no worries.
I used to cycle a few miles to an old girlfriend's house once or twice a week, but because she'd sometimes cycle to see me it seemed more equal - we were both willing to put the effort in to see each other. I wasn't some kind of pizza delivery guy with a box full of loving, or a low class escort, and neither was she :P
So if he honestly doesn't mind, there's no issue. But if he's open to the idea of you paying some money, visiting him instead once and a while or making it up in another way (clean your mind out, I mean like paying for him at a restaurant or cinema etc.) it'd be a darn nice thing of you :)
I agree. My bf and I try to split the driving to see each other as much as we can. He comes down here a lot more often though becaue I have more friends in town, more to do on the weekends and whatnot. Anytime he's low on gas I'll pay, it's not even a question since he does more of the driving. (Honestly I think the biggest reason is his car speakers are way better than mine >.>)