Should i move on???

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Man, personally my relationship between me and my girlfriend is way downhill. We fight, she says i lie; which i think she comes up with things to seem like i'm lying. Anyway i messed up in this relationship and i know it. But what i'm concerned with is that were not together anymore and we're f**k buddies. We hang out alot, go to parties. But whats messed up is she loves me, but she's still in love with her ex and kinda wants to put me on reserve. Should i take that? Is this normal. I went to clubs, i lied about it but nothing else have i done. I feel though that if she would just trust me then i would have never went. We were at a party this weekend( her friends) and she just decided she would flirt with this older guy there. I knew something was up. I let it slide for a bit, because i was a guest to her party and i loved her, but then she got drunk and this dude said he had a tattoo on his penis. Well she wanted to see. I was pissed about this, but let it slide; she said i've never seen it before. Well as time goes by im sitten in the living room chillen, and she says stay here for a minute i'll be back. I was drunk and it didn't hit me on how wierd that sounds. So few minutes later i step outside to see my ex bent over in front of this guy, and she moves up real fast and he takes off running! It took everything in my body to rip his head off! Why didn't I? Is this normal? This girl was so hurt by what i did to her that she felt it right to take revenge; but since she won't believe what is the truth to be the truth and not a lie she makes me hurt 10 times as bad!! What should i do? I love her still. How?

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  • cherrybomb21
    13 years ago | pl

    sometimes when you love someone a lot or are just really attached to eachother its really hard to see that there are always, as cheesy as it sounds, other fish in the sea! if you don't trust eachother and are hurting eachother it is time to move on.

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  • cherishme1
    13 years ago | pl

    it will never get better, only worse! if you really want to stay in the chaos you doing a great job. two wrongs dont make a right. and was she fucking that guy when she was bent over? you have to think of diseases and that is lack of respect wanting to see his dick tattoo. get out before it gets worse.

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  • Kassidy363
    13 years ago | pl

    Nah, you need to move on.. if she is trying to put you on reserve. I would never be anyone's second choice, or someone's doormat. If she accuses you of stuff, then she doesn't trust you.

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  • somethingsomethingme
    14 years ago | pl

    wow i wonder how you did it.
    i can't move on at all. no matter how hard i try.

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  • jlogan5408
    14 years ago | pl

    dang i didn't really expect all these comments; thanks. Yeah i'm in the process of talkin to a really beautiful, funny and full of life girl. Yall turned my life around.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago | pl

    If you haven't already, you should leave her. Just my 2 cents.

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  • Ernest
    14 years ago | pl

    Oh I just wrote something long but then read that you have moved on. Good for you.

    Make sure you dont involve yourself with her again. She could make you feel important for just a week and then all the feelings would gush back. Get a new girlfriend, one who doesnt bend over for randoms at parties.

    Goodluck champ.

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  • jlogan5408
    14 years ago | pl

    thanks for all your input; i have moved on now and i'm happy.

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  • RockyBalboa
    14 years ago | pl

    Man I feel for ya. I always get accused of lies and cheating. I admit I do lie about some stuff but it's only because my gf is ridiculously possessive. I never cheated on her but always get accused of it. We always fight and for some reason we never break up. It's been 3 years and, like you, I messed it up a while back but she can never seem to forget about it. Girls have a much harder time letting things go then guys do. In your case, the best thing to do is get out and find someone else. Apparently this girl is only out to get revenge on you and make you feel shitty. The worst thing to ever do is to feel guilty. It does nothing for you and it just drains on you. Get out there and live it up now. Plenty of other women.

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  • Jim_Pfoss
    14 years ago | pl

    If you have to ask, it's time to move on.

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