That's not a great history... the impulsive and selfish thing of just packing up and leaving you alone really worries me. Especially after only a few months of first moving in. It doesn't say much for his commitment or his opinion of you, at that time.
Yes, people can change. And sure, give him a chance to change. But don't marry him. Not yet.
There's a saying that if something happens twice, it's sure to happen a third time. Of course that's not always true, but is it worth making such a huge commitment as marriage, when he has left you (at the drop of a hat) twice already?
I don't think so. And besides, what's the rush? If he's changed, great! You'll have plenty of time to live together, re-establish trust and a new phase in your relationship without getting married. There's just no reason to do it yet.
Also - how do you know for sure that you're aware of everything going on with him? ie. Could there be reasons you're not aware of, (but should be), that relate to his past behaviour?
Good luck whatever you decide... but I don't think you should decide anything for a long time.
Should i marry him or step away ?
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That's not a great history... the impulsive and selfish thing of just packing up and leaving you alone really worries me. Especially after only a few months of first moving in. It doesn't say much for his commitment or his opinion of you, at that time.
Yes, people can change. And sure, give him a chance to change. But don't marry him. Not yet.
There's a saying that if something happens twice, it's sure to happen a third time. Of course that's not always true, but is it worth making such a huge commitment as marriage, when he has left you (at the drop of a hat) twice already?
I don't think so. And besides, what's the rush? If he's changed, great! You'll have plenty of time to live together, re-establish trust and a new phase in your relationship without getting married. There's just no reason to do it yet.
Also - how do you know for sure that you're aware of everything going on with him? ie. Could there be reasons you're not aware of, (but should be), that relate to his past behaviour?
Good luck whatever you decide... but I don't think you should decide anything for a long time.