Should i just start being sweeter?

I have autism and the guy i'm dating has autism and ADHD. We attempted dating once before but I thought he was very overbearing.I brought it up with him and often complained about how romantic he was.

Now that I have gotten a new chance with him which I am very happy about he is nothing like that.He is very careful in displaying emotions.I tried to question him about this.He said that maybe the reason he doesn't talk about his emotions is because he already told me how he feels when we dated last year.Then he said "and maybe its because it's your turn to tell me your emotions now" which may be true.I have never told him how I feel about him and I never give him compliments.

I told him I find it difficult to display my emotions to which he said we'll have to practice it.Then he started asking me a bunch of random questions and according to him to help me open up more.I dont know how that is supposed to help ?

Last year he said he loves me after a few weeks and now he's all "I like you a lot" but he's also insinauted he sees a future with us.
Should I just relax and start being sweet and romantic to him???Like heart emojis in chat and such???I just feel so embarrassed about it I am very scared of rejection and vulnerability.Is it right for me to tell him to start being romantic with me again if I havent even told him how I feel about him or showed it???I just felt its fair because at least before he was more comfortable with it than me.But is he right its my turn to start???

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  • Don't change yourself, or try to make this guy change who he is. It's okay to be single.

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    • But I want him I am in love with him and I dont want to be a cold person but I am.I have tried to change him before and I feel bad about it.

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      • It’s ok to make changes and work on oneself, relationships always take some forms of compromise to work. And are worth doing so if you want that. One is just selfish and stubborn in thinking they never need to change themselves at all. Some people think it’s some sort of virtue but it’s really not, it’s arrogant.

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      • Why do you want him?

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        • Because he make me happy and he is one of few people who get me and is always there for me and he is great communicator.I am not afraid of bringing any issue up with him,and usually I am afraid to confront everyone.

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  • The best advice I can give you is to talk to him about it. Ask what he wants from you in your relationship. Tell him how you're feeling. The biggest killer of relationships is a failure to communicate.

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    • I sort of have.At least he is understanding its difficult for me and tries to help me open up comfortably for me but its difficult for him too like I know how it feel when you arent sure how the other person feels but its just so hard

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