I believe sex is something you should do when you feel ready, and because you truly feel it is the right time, not because of pressure.
Honestly, it's extremely common for 18-year-olds to be virgins, but many don't talk about it, because there is a lot of pressure at that age to lose your virginity. Even as a girl, my friends were pressuring me like crazy. I never felt comfortable with it, so didn't give in, and have zero regrets (and personally, would've regretted doing it just to get it over with).
If you feel that sex is something you would like with someone you're in a serious relationship with, I think you should wait, especially if you have any doubts at all about having it with just anyone. To be honest, it is really nobody's business whether you're a virgin or not, so if anyone tries to pry into your sex life, just tell them you keep that information private. Yes, you will probably be given crap about it, but to be honest, that is just immaturity and often insecurity. Do what you feel deep down is right for you, and don't allow anyone to pressure you or make you feel inferior about your decision.
Honestly, the only difference between a virgin and a non-virgin is the fact that one has experienced something the other hasn't. That's it. Contrary to popular belief, it does not mean one is more desirable or better in any way than a virgin, as people have sex with people they don't really care about all the time. Virginity is really not nearly as big of a deal as many people make it out to be, and you'll still be the same person after you lose it. There's absolutely no shame in being a virgin, and the stigma surrounding virginity is actually pretty childish and ignorant.
If your gut is telling you something, follow it. Do what you feel is right for you. Do not allow your fear of what people might think of you rule your decision, as their opinions really do not matter (and like I said, it's not any of their business, anyway). Do what feels right to YOU.
Should I just have sex to get it over with?
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I believe sex is something you should do when you feel ready, and because you truly feel it is the right time, not because of pressure.
Honestly, it's extremely common for 18-year-olds to be virgins, but many don't talk about it, because there is a lot of pressure at that age to lose your virginity. Even as a girl, my friends were pressuring me like crazy. I never felt comfortable with it, so didn't give in, and have zero regrets (and personally, would've regretted doing it just to get it over with).
If you feel that sex is something you would like with someone you're in a serious relationship with, I think you should wait, especially if you have any doubts at all about having it with just anyone. To be honest, it is really nobody's business whether you're a virgin or not, so if anyone tries to pry into your sex life, just tell them you keep that information private. Yes, you will probably be given crap about it, but to be honest, that is just immaturity and often insecurity. Do what you feel deep down is right for you, and don't allow anyone to pressure you or make you feel inferior about your decision.
Honestly, the only difference between a virgin and a non-virgin is the fact that one has experienced something the other hasn't. That's it. Contrary to popular belief, it does not mean one is more desirable or better in any way than a virgin, as people have sex with people they don't really care about all the time. Virginity is really not nearly as big of a deal as many people make it out to be, and you'll still be the same person after you lose it. There's absolutely no shame in being a virgin, and the stigma surrounding virginity is actually pretty childish and ignorant.
If your gut is telling you something, follow it. Do what you feel is right for you. Do not allow your fear of what people might think of you rule your decision, as their opinions really do not matter (and like I said, it's not any of their business, anyway). Do what feels right to YOU.