A lot of people who get into marriages or relationships - shouldn’t.
Many people need some serious personal work done before they enter a committed relationship, and some people just aren’t made for it at all. Nobody should be entering a /marriage/ when they are unsure of what they want, or believe that “after marriage, maybe then they’ll change”
I think many of the people who would make good, dedicated, partners are not as active in the dating field. Grounded and disciplined individuals who would make loyal and satisfied spouses are less likely to be energetically playing the field searching for a partner and bopping around the dating scene. I don’t believe they are fewer in numbers, I just believe they are not as visible.
Some people enjoy dating around, “variety”, entertaining new people, which I believe you can be happy with this lifestyle - I believe it is ideal for some personalities. Where the trouble comes in is when one of these people attempts to partner with someone who does not entertain that lifestyle at all.
Being honest about what you want is crucial. For you, personally, avoid dating people who say they don’t know what they want, or that they don’t think of marriage at all anyway. You can’t “convince” someone they want to live a certain life. You are not ‘picky’ for having hardlines about incredibly important life decisions like whether you want marriage, and whether you want children. Keep filtering
Should I just accept my partner cheating as an inevitability?
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A lot of people who get into marriages or relationships - shouldn’t.
Many people need some serious personal work done before they enter a committed relationship, and some people just aren’t made for it at all. Nobody should be entering a /marriage/ when they are unsure of what they want, or believe that “after marriage, maybe then they’ll change”
I think many of the people who would make good, dedicated, partners are not as active in the dating field. Grounded and disciplined individuals who would make loyal and satisfied spouses are less likely to be energetically playing the field searching for a partner and bopping around the dating scene. I don’t believe they are fewer in numbers, I just believe they are not as visible.
Some people enjoy dating around, “variety”, entertaining new people, which I believe you can be happy with this lifestyle - I believe it is ideal for some personalities. Where the trouble comes in is when one of these people attempts to partner with someone who does not entertain that lifestyle at all.
Being honest about what you want is crucial. For you, personally, avoid dating people who say they don’t know what they want, or that they don’t think of marriage at all anyway. You can’t “convince” someone they want to live a certain life. You are not ‘picky’ for having hardlines about incredibly important life decisions like whether you want marriage, and whether you want children. Keep filtering