Yeah, actually. If she had someone that wanted to commit to exclusively her and cater to her needs for the rest of her life, I imagine she would be better off, and I would rather see her in that situation than continually trying to make it work with me, someone who obviously doesn't want a relationship.
I think it's dangerous that people choose to commit to each other and forcefully reject their body and biology's urges. I believe this can cause dramatic psychological dissonance that leads to other problems. It sounds like that's how many marriages end up being unhappy. They just stick together because they "have to" after awhile, resenting each other, never having sex, never caring about each other. Just sticking together because society insists that they do.
Well, with that comment it seems like you already have your mind made up. If she's not the person you can fully commit to, physically and mentally, then maybe it's time for you to move on and stop wasting your time along with hers.
I don't think commitment is dangerous at all. I've never had an urge strong enough to cheat on my boyfriend. It's merely just admiring someone's aesthetics and and just imagining momentarily. I'm 150% happy in my relationship all the way around. I can't picture ever having another boyfriend, but I do see whee you're coming from. It almost sounds like you feel deprived. I feel like when you meet the "one", nothing would come before making your relationship work, making some sacrifices, and resisting temptations along the way. I do wish you the best though in whatever decision you make.
Should I ignore my feelings and save the relationship, or break up?
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Yeah, actually. If she had someone that wanted to commit to exclusively her and cater to her needs for the rest of her life, I imagine she would be better off, and I would rather see her in that situation than continually trying to make it work with me, someone who obviously doesn't want a relationship.
I think it's dangerous that people choose to commit to each other and forcefully reject their body and biology's urges. I believe this can cause dramatic psychological dissonance that leads to other problems. It sounds like that's how many marriages end up being unhappy. They just stick together because they "have to" after awhile, resenting each other, never having sex, never caring about each other. Just sticking together because society insists that they do.
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Well, with that comment it seems like you already have your mind made up. If she's not the person you can fully commit to, physically and mentally, then maybe it's time for you to move on and stop wasting your time along with hers.
I don't think commitment is dangerous at all. I've never had an urge strong enough to cheat on my boyfriend. It's merely just admiring someone's aesthetics and and just imagining momentarily. I'm 150% happy in my relationship all the way around. I can't picture ever having another boyfriend, but I do see whee you're coming from. It almost sounds like you feel deprived. I feel like when you meet the "one", nothing would come before making your relationship work, making some sacrifices, and resisting temptations along the way. I do wish you the best though in whatever decision you make.