I agree with what bubsy and SwickDinging have said.
People who rely on others for validation are never going to be truly happy because there will always be the thought niggling away at the back of their mind that maybe the other person isn't being honest when they express approval. If someone is locked into an extremely negative view of themselves, they can end up disliking and distrusting those who say positive things about them.
We all want to feel needed and valued, but it's very difficult to like someone who doesn't like themselves.
Something else you might consider is that it's very common for there to be problems in a relationship when one person is unhappy about something and looking for emotional support, while the other person sees a problem that needs to be fixed.
Should I have to make me gf feel better?
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I agree with what bubsy and SwickDinging have said.
People who rely on others for validation are never going to be truly happy because there will always be the thought niggling away at the back of their mind that maybe the other person isn't being honest when they express approval. If someone is locked into an extremely negative view of themselves, they can end up disliking and distrusting those who say positive things about them.
We all want to feel needed and valued, but it's very difficult to like someone who doesn't like themselves.
Something else you might consider is that it's very common for there to be problems in a relationship when one person is unhappy about something and looking for emotional support, while the other person sees a problem that needs to be fixed.
Have a look at this:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/skills-healthy-relationships/201606/stop-trying-fix-things-just-listen