This is a matter of "validation from others" vs "validation from self". Can you create your own self-esteem or do you require the constant approval from others?
There is no demographic whose validation comes more from others than teenage girls and young women. This problem could be rooted in hormones, culture, social nature, or whatever. Regardless of the reason, it's especially important for them to develop the sort of feedback loops for esteem that start and end with themselves, without requiring the input of others.
To do so, the girl has to become competent. Encourage her to pursue her goals, to achieve things, to develop skills, to be less helpless. To take on responsibilities. These are the things that build a person up from the inside. It's very hard for such a person to break down.
Should I have to make me gf feel better?
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This is a matter of "validation from others" vs "validation from self". Can you create your own self-esteem or do you require the constant approval from others?
There is no demographic whose validation comes more from others than teenage girls and young women. This problem could be rooted in hormones, culture, social nature, or whatever. Regardless of the reason, it's especially important for them to develop the sort of feedback loops for esteem that start and end with themselves, without requiring the input of others.
To do so, the girl has to become competent. Encourage her to pursue her goals, to achieve things, to develop skills, to be less helpless. To take on responsibilities. These are the things that build a person up from the inside. It's very hard for such a person to break down.