Should i go to a gay bar by myself yay or nay?

I went today by myself to see what its like as never been to a bar. I am 26f..I dont particularly want to go at night alone, thoughts? I have no LGBT friends to go with and only 2 real friends in life. One who I know wouldnt go and one says shes always too busy. What does one do? Haha

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Yes 30
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  • stamina

    I think you should go alone simply for the experience. Plus if you're alone no-one's gonna judge who you're interested in and those standards can reach new lows

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  • JustMolly

    Gay bars are no different to any other bars, would you go to a straight bar alone? If you wouldn’t, then I don’t think you should go alone.

    From my experience, the LGBT bars I have been to have been really great! The atmosphere seems much nicer and it’s a sort of relief to not have to worry about horny men. I think a lot of LGBT people in there will be able to tell that you aren’t gay, so they will probably leave you alone or strike up conversation with you because of it (gay people get hounded by horny gay people too).

    At the end of the day, just remember to be smart and responsible. Gay bars aren’t so much ‘different’ as they are a safe place for LGBT people to go where they don’t have to worry about people judging them, so I think it’s great that you want to support that!

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    • Well I think gay bars are very different to straight bars as like u mentioned theree isnt going to be horny as men and all. Also, I want to try find a gf and I hope they think I'm gay. I'm scared its gonna be full of butch looking females though where as I'm interested in femmes or tom boy and I'm Tom boy/femme

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      • JustMolly

        If your area is safe, I think you should go.

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        • Thanks

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  • jethro

    Why does the bar have to be a gay bar?

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    • I ain't going to a flippin straight bar where the men are sleave bags drooling for pussy. I want to go to a safe place and I want to date a girl

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      • jethro

        Uhhh just what is a sleave bag? By the way, what do you think dykes drool for? You guessed it... pussy.

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        • A horny bastard

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          • jethro

            What or who is a horney bastard?

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  • leggs91200

    Just go up to gay men and ask them if they want their stools pushed in.

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    • bigbudchonga

      Loooooooooool

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    • EnglishLad

      The original poster clearly states that she's "26f" (26 years old and female), so I would assume she means fully female rather than trans, and therefore lacks the required apparatus to "push their stools in" as you so eloquently put it.

      Also, if a guy is gay, he's not going to be attracted to a woman, is he?

      The original poster may well have more luck asking a single lesbian, though.

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      • Why on earth would they assume I'm trans? Did I say that ? Lol I'm definitely 100% femme female.

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        • EnglishLad

          Beats me.

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  • NoLifer

    Well I think that depends. How safe is your area, when are you going, what sort of transportion do you have, do you plan on getting drunk? I go to bars alone myself but its usually in the day and I usually go to drink. My area I currently live is very safe and has low crime rates. If you go at night make sure you have good transportation out like if you do get drunk.

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  • bigbudchonga

    Ye go for it, I don't think you'll get much attention though, gay bars tend to be for men bumming men

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    • Whaat? No, actually lesbians go there too as I was recommended this place by some lezzies I am acquaintances with

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  • SeekNPlay

    Gay isn’t my fortay but I’d say just do it?

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  • IrishPotato

    Why not?

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  • If you bring a straight friend she may just find herself a Erika Linder.

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    • Who dat

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      • I was referring to a movie called below her mouth it’s a good movie you should watch it.

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        • Omfg yes I wanted to watch that ages ago as looks hot as but I live with my family so I cant hire the movie out sadly

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          • I seem the trailer and also wasnt aware thats her name haha. Daum she looks real confident though, wish I had that approach and confidence

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            • It definitely was and ik me too. I watched it on netflix I didn’t know anything about her till that movie but she’s so good at acting it’s crazy.

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  • SwickDinging

    I think it's ok to go alone. When I was younger I would sometimes go to a bar on my own, sometimes to meet someone for a one night stand and sometimes just because I had a sudden urge to get out there and dance without having to arrange a night out. Just be aware that people might take it as a signal that you're looking to be picked up. That might be good though, if that's what you're looking for?

    The other alternative is to use a friend app like meet up or bumble. Then you can find like minded people to go with, and maybe it will turn into a friendship.

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    • I tried bumble and all other sorts of dating apps ever!! No luck :(
      Also I dont want a one night stand with a stranger but I'd very much like to date a girl and kiss one

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      • SwickDinging

        I meant friend apps, not dating apps.

        Sorry you've had no luck though.

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  • Columbusbiguy

    Im not sure the type of bar you are referring, like just a hangout type, dance club, etc., but just go and see what its like if no one wsnts to go. Limit your alcohol intake and talk to people there. If you wait for others to do what you want to do, you may never do anything. You are only young once, please, please, please, do not take this time for granted. Live and explore!

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    • Thanks, just scared at night being alone, what if thugs are there lingering outside.

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      • Columbusbiguy

        If it is a sefety thing, then by all means take precautions. If it is an area that is that prone to thuggery, then perhaps you want to reconsider going alone. You know the area better than I do.

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        • Thanks :)

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  • megadriver

    I wouldn't go to any venue alone. Bar, cafe, pub, restaurant, disco, whatever...

    With people it's always better.

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    • SamanthaTheGoat

      I have no family and no friends, so I ride solo, I know, shocking huh.

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    • SamanthaTheGoat

      Why, some people, like me, have to start somewhere. What would you do if your two friends wouldn't go, but you wanted to pursue something, like O.P??

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      • megadriver

        I guess you're right, you gotta start somewhere. It just feels odd to me going out alone that's all.

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        • Same I feel odd

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  • SamanthaTheGoat

    No beards? I would go alone but I wouldn't recommend it for most people. Can I ask why you feel you need to go to a bar? I can pick up straight girls in Starbucks and get them interested. Is there a type of woman you're looking for?

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    • No beards? What's that? I have been told only areas to meet other gay girls are at bars sadly or night clubs (really not my scene tbh, dont drink nor want to meet an idiot).
      I have a particular type in mind in appearance yes but also personality.
      A nice down to earth genuine gal

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      • Nicole20

        Gay girls are everywhere.

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        • I cant find them

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