Should i give up on this a**hole?

If you call him an asshole in your opening, I think you already know your answer.

I don't really think theirs anything wrong with what he's doing, but it's a little strange. Why does he keep coming over if he really doesn't want to be with you. Clearly, your bothered by the fact that he doesn't spend enough time with you, so give him an ultimateum.

I'm curious to know how old he is? If you're 16 and he's a grown man, then you may want to reconsider. Also, you mentioned, "He's the only good-looking man I know," good looks can start relationships, but that's not what carries the relationship through.

Have you sat him down to talk with him about your feelings? Tell him you need to have a talk and you need for him to listen without interrupting or zoning you out. Then let it all out and when you're finished, ask him to share his thoughts on the matter. The main question to ask him is "Are you serious about me?"

He has a job and no cell phone? That's really odd. Even people without jobs have cell phones. Have you just started dating? If so, he may simply be hiding the fact that he has a cell phone and because you're young; if he's older, you may be a girl on the side to him (I say this because a lot of friends I knew would do just that). They would have like 4-5 girls at once time, some of them would be friends with each other and they wouldn't know. I always thought there was such a lack of morals in that but at the same time was baffled at how often girls would allow themselves to be fooled.

But if he is a genuine guy who cares about you, which is a possibility, I find is strange for a guy to want to hang out with his friends more than his girl; but to each his own. I spend the majority of my time with my fiancée and every now and then I meet up with my friends to hang out, but very rarely. You're still young and if he's young too, his mind may be on hanging out and having fun rather than building a future. I think 16 is too young to date! There are three things to look for in a man: 1) He can provide 2) He can protect or at least is willing to lay down his life to protect you from harm 3) He can spiritually guide you in life

Regarding eye contact, I don't think he is being shy, he is a guy and guys don't make eye contact for the most part. Women need to make eye contact all the time when communicating! But guys keep their eyes elsewhere to avoid conflict. You feel that you're not connecting because he's not looking at you, eye to eye but understand that he's a guy and guys are different. If he did have a troubled past, then he may have a lack of confidence and fear of abandonment and if this is the case, he needs reassurance that you aren't going to leave him.

Lastly, try to confront him in a respectful way! Women need to understand that as soon as they get disrespectful, men will CLOSE OFF. Always be respectful to your man, and you will always have communication. But when you start to disrespect, which is a natural response for you, he will close off and hide from you to avoid conflict.

what the fuck is wrong with him? girls come first

kill his freinds. burn his workplace, buy him a phone, move in with him. and tell him if he leaves or dosent call u at least 1 time a day you will brutally murder him with a lampshade.

I couldn't answer normal or not because I didn't know exactly what you meant by normal. Is HE normal? YES. Are you normal? kinda. I guess it's normal for people to feel like that, but your over-stressing. He's not cheating on you or anything, and he's not an a**hole. He's normal, and him being shy around you probably means he likes you a lot.

Well you can't really follow the rules that come with a real relationship when you are so young. Just do what you feel is right.

I agree with bud, and I don't know the person so idk. Everyone is different and maybe he shows that he likes you in a way that you don't understand.

the reason he shy is because he doesn't want to do anything to make u angry e.g you want him to call you he is worried that you will be busy with something and ell him to call later thus putting guilt on him

how do i know this cause i had to help my friend pass this prob with his girl

Gotta agree with Ollie and Bud....yes, you should forget about this asshole. To be honest, it's probably not even so much that he's an asshole as he is a self-centered teenage boy. If you can't cut him off completely, at least take a step back, hang out with him as a friend if you want to, if you like the occasional attention or whatever. But keep your eye out for a better opportunity. Don't waste any more of your time pining for this guy who doesn't give you the time of day half the time.

It's hard to say without knowing him. Also, why would his looks even be a factor in this? Oh, and why would you even bother being with someone you describe as an "asshole"?

Are you over-thinking this? You are only 16.

Not that that means your relationships are less important. But put it in perspective: he's a boyfriend. You are teen agers. You are growing up.

These are pretty insignificant items you have listed. Yo choose: don't take them too seriously & enjoy what yo have. Or do and break up. Either way, its teen romance/dating. Not an adult divorce.

Don't lose sleep, alienate parents, bomb in school or work etc. over this. Those things matter far more, and torpedoing them doesn't make the bf relationship more important. It just makes the whole scene more dramatic.