Should i feel creeped out?

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I met a disabled guy today (I think one of his eyes is blind). He sat behind me. We had a small talk for about 15-20 seconds. I was polite, I made eye contact and smiled just like I would to any other person. We introduced ourselves and he shook my hand.

I’m going to be a bit detailed here so I apologize in advance:

For the rest of the ride it was quiet. I put on my earphones and zoned out. When it was almost time for him to get off the bus, he put his hand on my shoulder to get my attention so i took off one of my earphones and to wish him a nice day or something. I don’t really feel comfortable strangers touching me but since hes disabled and probably don’t know any better, I let it go. Then I put on my earphones again, he took his hand off my shoulder.

When the bus is a couple blocks away from his stop, he gave me a piece of paper with his number, email and a note saying “I love you”. That when I started feeling uncomfortable. He put his hand on my shoulder, kind of massaging it while telling me “Call me, okay? Okay?”, I felt that he’s keeping his eyes on the piece of paper so I put in my bag so he’d take off his hand off my shoulder. Then he shook my hand again and it was LONGEST handshake ever! While shaking my hand, he was stroking the back of my hand. I felt creeped out so I tried to pull my hand off but he resisted so I tried pulling my hand harder. Then when the bus finally stopped, he gave me a hug and whispered to my ear “I love you”. I looked out the window, trying ignoring him.

My question is should I feel creeped out? I’m NOT trying to be a bitch here and I’m only saying the side of my story. I’m trying to be considerate since he’s phsyically and mentally disabled (at least, I think he’s mentally disabled). If you were in my position, how would you have handled the situation better? I don’t have a lot of knowledge about mental disabilities, so I don’t really know how to react or to handle situations like that. Would have been better if I ignored him from the start or moved to another seat? But I thought that would be rude. Anyway, what are your thoughts on this?

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  • Whatintarnation
    5 years ago

    It's good to be polite. Nothing wrong with that. Guy just sounds like a weirdo is all. Doesn't necessarily mean he's creepy. Just maybe socially awkward.

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  • MasterChives
    5 years ago

    Yes this is some creepy shit.

    Chives is all about equality so would have treated him no different from anyone else.

    So given that I would have replied "I love you too" then poked his good eye hard.

    Followed by a swift beat down.

    If he wasn't retarded before he certainly would have been once the beatings cease.

    Yay! Equality!

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    • TheOishome
      5 years ago

      Equality works when it's equality of opportunity as opposed to equality of outcome. Equality of opportunity takes into account any situational factors whereas equality of outcome ignores these.
      I'll give you an example, if a 6 year old child steals a purse is it morally right to throw him in jail? No Because be doesn't know any better, if a 60 year old person stole a purse its a different story, but according to equality of outcome this is not fair because both people did the same thing with different outcomes. In simple terms it's important to take into account all important factors when judging a situation. So no not yay equality, yay mistreatment of human beings due to a lack of understanding of the term equality.
      To answer the authors question; I don't think it's creepy per say, that man has likely never felt the loving touch of a woman and probably wants nothing more and why shouldn't he as humans we all do, now given his mental illness he isn't very good at that kind of thing and to him your little chat and treating him kindly was probably profoundly meaningful to him which I'd imagine is why he said he loved you, because you treated him with respect and smiled so he was likely very happy that a pretty girl smiled and talked to him. Although it undoubtedly made you uncomfortable and rightly so but it's important to understand he means well and was probably very touched at how nicely you treated him, if I were you I'd be proud of yourself you seemed to have handled the situation very well from what I've read.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Ugh. Well, I'm feeling yucky. If I won the lottery tomorrow I'd buy you a freaking car!

    I'm glad I have never had to use public transportation much. I find myself feeling guilty for saying that, and also really wishing I could give you a car. Seriously, I much prefer an existence within my own little semi private bubble known as an automobile.

    I am truly sorry that happened to you. I'm not that good at giving advice regarding that sort of thing. My first instinct is to run, and stay far away in the future.

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    • McBean
      5 years ago

      Turning into a werewolf might help.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        I would love to be able to do that! Las Vegas would have been the perfect place, lots of douchebags for me to tear apart as long as none of them survive being attacked I'd be good.

        I think it's okay to just not talk to people if they weird me out. I don't like it when people I don't know are overly friendly with me, and I especially don't like being touched by strangers. I feel really bad for OP, because the situation is more awkward due to the person's disability, but it might be less threatening as well.

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  • Ummitsstillme
    5 years ago

    The "I love you" part, the holding the hand and not letting go, the stroking the top of the hand and even the grabbing of the shoulder of someone you just met on the train is socially innapropriate and hella creepy. Disabled or not, it doesn't stop the interaction from being creepy, although the guy might have a built in excuse for not knowing how to behave in public.

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  • IamaPleb
    5 years ago

    Sadly his mental state is 'not visible' so he won't know any better.
    Let me say this though, if he knew what he was doing thatz just creepy asf !!

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  • LoveDenise
    5 years ago

    That is creepy but also he sucks at flirting and I wouldn't want a stranger touching me!

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  • megadriver
    5 years ago

    You're not being a bitch. Guy was being creepy...
    Hell, if I was you, I'd get up and go to another part of the bus.
    I get it... Guy's lonely and disabled, but no matter how bad you have it, you can't just hand some chick your number and say "I love you! Call me ok? OK?!" while staring at you and touching you the whole time like some fucked up mofo from a psycho movie...
    If anything, you were being way too nice.

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  • TerriAngel
    5 years ago

    Sorry lass, not here to read a book.
    Never been to court I'd bet.

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