Should i end contact with my mom?

Wow your mom sounds like mine. My mom was verbally and psychologically abusive to me my whole life. I could tell you some stories that would make your hair curl. But I've been happily married to the most wonderful woman for the past 17 years and I guess the final straw with my mother came about four years ago. For some reason she hates my wife I'm assuming jealousy and mom was in the process of moving. One day she just flipped out on my wife like usual and told her I don't want to talk to you bitch I want to talk to my son. I just called her back and left her a message and she wanted me to do some obscure things for her that I can't really remember. Anyway long story short I ended up leaving her a message on her phone saying to her that she knew my phone number and if you want to call me the ball was now in her court, so that was four years ago. And I haven't heard from her since. I'm 54 years old now and to be honest with you I'm happy to be rid of her. My aunt who I love dearly also hates my mother and set this about her "some people are just pure garbage and aren't worth the effort" and she was right. I would just get rid of your mother because she sounds like a horrible abusive troll just like mine. Good luck

PS congratulations on the prestigious award too bad your mother ruined it for you

I think it's a combination of jealousy, resentment, and probably an inferiority complex.

My mother isn't as vicious, but she's similar and very controlling. When I do things that clearly show how independent and successful I am, she gets extremely upset and tells me that I betrayed her. Normal mothers would be proud, even tear up seeing their child grow up before their eyes; but instead my mom likes to see me dragged down with her, constantly struggling, and progressing through life as slowly (or even slower) than she had.

Though I'm not at that point yet, I suggest you cut her out your life.

My mother was toxic in many similar ways to yours, I haven't had any contact with her in over 3 years and it was the best decision I've ever made. The fact that you're asking this question tells me that you know the answer and are simply doubting what you know to be true because you've been pre-conditioned to think of yourself in negative terms. It is not wrong to refuse to be mistreated.

My mom left my father on my 10th birthday and sick as a dog for a jewish man that promised her millions of dollars that she never seen. When I was 14 years old I seen her again and spent the night at her house ( it was not a good choice because he through pots and pans at my mom like a bitch cause she would not give him head in the bedroom while I was in the living room ) Then I met back up with her when I was 30 years old. If was cool for the first two weeks then it was like she did not give a shit, then pretty much told me that I was worth nothing but in other ways, so I told her until she wants a actual relationship with her son she can go fuck her self and I have not heard from her since, I am 38 years old now.

You are 50 years old my dear, exactly how long will you allow your mother to torment you? What do you get out of the relationship? Clearly nothing, because according to your post her poor treatment of you has been going on since you were a baby. What kind of mother ruins her daughters day as she did yours? You were to be presented an award,a huge achievement for you - a loving mother would have been excited for you and supportive of you instead your own mother opted to ruin your moment. I think your mother did it deliberately. Unfortunately there are mothers out there who are genuinely jealous of their children's achievements and others who just get a kick out of emotionally tormenting their children. If your mother has been treating you like this all your life what makes you think she will suddenly change now? My advice to you is to cut her out of your life completely and don't make a big dramatic announcement out of it, just stop calling her, visiting her. Don't block her on social media simply just don't converse with her - don't leave comments on her posts. Just gradually and quietly without drama completely withdraw from her life. Initially she won't clock but over a few months she will start noticing that you are not in her life anymore. Don't tell anyone of your plans in case they may inform your mother. I promise you it will give you a sense of empowerment. I did that to my arsehole sister, it's been 8 years now since I cut her out of my life and I found a sense of peace when I did. And guess what? the sun did not fall out of the sky. She is your mother I know and in the ideal world all children should have an amazing relationship with their mothers but unfortunately this is not the case for you. For your OWN peace of mind move on from this selfish b@#*t

well, she probably needs a punching bag to contain all her anger, which is why shes taking it out on you. since you guys have never really bonded , it probably makes it easier for her to verbally abuse you?
PS. congrats on your award :)

She probably has lots of issues from having had to be a single mother when most girls her age weren't even old enough to drive a car. It's not your fault of course, but she probably has a lot of resentments. I'm not trying to make excuses for her, but rather see both sides of the issue.

Congratulations on your prestigious career award!

None of this stuff is your fault of course, but maybe it would a good idea to take a break from your mom for a while? If you feel like you wanna work it out maybe ya'll could go to family therapy together?

as a muslim i should tell you its not normal and you should keep trying but honestly some pwople are simply bad and not worth the time, stay away from her long enough and she will realize how bad of a mother she was and change for you , but if she doesnt that confirms she is a bad person so just stay away from her