Should i cut my family out for a year or two or three

Not really, I was just posting a poll to see what other people in this situation would do. In the end i'm going to do what my heart says.

my family the same i think about cutting them off to i cant stand any one and if i say sumthing every gangs up on me so i keep to me self when i was younger i kept a bunch of pills in my room if i ever wanted 2 kill my self and one day i started taking them then my cousin walked in she was 4 at the time so she doesnt remeber i flushed the rest down the toilet so yea maybe a year or 2 would be ok cause eventually they'll get 2 u and u might try sumthing

HERE'S AN UPDATE, I did end up leaving but came back for financial reasons,(but I did not cut out contact when I left which I should have) and I realized that no matter how much I tried it's not going to work out. I've been going to college for quite some time now and I'm moving back out in august but, this time I do plan to stick with my plans of absoulutely having no contact whatsoever with them, unless it's absoulutely necessary, such as an emergency etc... I know I'll be strugling to get by and will be squeezing every penny, but at this point I feel having a financial burden/struggle will be a lot easier than what I have to put up with here at home. My mother treats me so much different than the other siblings and no matter how much I do or didn't do it was never enough for her. For instance I was paying her rent, buying groceries, working 12 hour shifts and she would still nit pick at the fact that I didn't come home and clean her house or sweep and mop when she was there most of the day and I had just worked a 12 hour shift and went to school for 4. There was nothing I could do that was ever enough. She also demeaned me, told me that I would never find someone who would love/want me, just to name a few. She has never once told me she's proud of any of my accomplishments and i'm a pre-med student, but yet she will sit there and brag about my brother and sister to me and everyone else. I don't need her approval because I'm extremely self motivated, but it does kinda hurt that she doesn't acknowledge anything good I'm doing. I kinda realize my family is mentally unstable. Growing up my mom beat my brother a lot and she had the nerve to tell me recently she use to beat the crap out of him because it was my fault.. I'm no psychologist but that right there says a lot. I'm not a hatefull person in fact i'm a really sensitive person and I do have compassion and empathy for people which is why i'm studying medicine, so I can help people one day, but i've recently started feeling this profound overwelming hatred for my mother to the point where if she were to drop dead I honestly wouldn't care or shed a tear for her. I myself cant believe i've come to that point because that is not vindicitive of who I am as a person. Obviously it's not healthy for me to feel this way and I plan to speak to a school councelor to help me feel better about all this.

I would love to hear what the status of the original poster is. It's been a while now,.... did you leave your family behind?

How'd they react?

Are you better off, or do you miss them and have regrets?

Please update because I need help with this situation in my own family too!

thanks OP.

They are family and deep down you love them but it doesn't mean you like them! About 10 years ago I decided that I wasn't going to waste one day of my life being with people I didn't want to be with, or doing something I didn't really want to do - and from that time, life has been great!! I don't do what others expect me to do, I don't feel any obligation and my life has flown in so happily.

Spend your time with people who appreciate you and this may be your friends, rather than your family. Enjoy yourself, life's too short.

Buy a house in Singapore or Malaysia and go there. (I dun think u live there anyway, so...)
DON'T TELL THEM YOU'RE GOING! :(

P.S. i don't live in Singapore OR Malaysia...

If I were you, I would cut them DOWN *wink wink*.

But yeah, I'd remove them completely from my life, wether with violence or peace (moving, etc.).

I have a brother kinda like that. He's my twin. *facepalm*
Anyway, he only ever calls or talks to me when he needs or wants something. He's very opinionated and if you don't agree with him, he makes you feel like piece of shit. So I just never talk to him. I'll ask my dad about him every now and then. I didn't cut him out of my life, but I don't go out of my way to talk to him either. I'd say just send him a text or something every once in a while like... "How ya been." Hope that helps.

If its something like that it can fixed maybe.. suggest family counseling? My mom is controlling and has been verbally and physically abusive as I was growing up. The best thing to do is get away from all that bull shit... You need positive energy. But if u feel its worth saving try talking to them exactly how u feel, if that doesnt work find peace of mind and support through trustworthy friends

If it's a drag being around them, then why bother. It sounds harsh, but I'm in a similar situation. Family or not, life is too short to spend it being miserable around people who don't "get it". Take some breathing room and when your ready, head back in. Good Luck!

You have just described my life, except I have a sister and not a brother. My parents always take her said too, no matter if she is wrong or right. I am also too forgiving. I would definitely cut them out of my life if I were you. I know it can be extremely difficult at times, but it sounds like that's what's best for you. No one can change the past, so you will always hurt from the thought of it. Move on and stay strong.

Maybe I'm simple minded, but if you don't like them, don't meet them.

wow thats pretty full on. you are a great brother and son to put up with that. i wouldnt suggest cutting them out all together but maybe give them time to miss you? after a while you could possibly send them a letter explaining how much they hurt you because of how they treat you. the letter idea could go one of two ways. it could open their eyes because they have how you feel in black and white but they could also use it against you and call you a baby or whatever and they might think you hate them. only you can make that call because you know them. it sux that we cant choose our family. i do think they both have problems which they need to sort out within themselves. let them know that you love them no matter what but that is not how family should treat each other. i hope you get some really great advice that helps because theres nothing worse than loosing your family.

do you really trust a website with life advice...? just figure it out for your self