I think it's completely wrong of your mom to try an manipulate you in this way. They are your family and you have the right to see them whenever you want, and vice versa, they have the right to see you. The only way it wouldn't be a good idea was if they imposed some sort of a danger on you, which I don't think is the problem. A family will love you regardless of how successful you are, if your mom thinks otherwise, it's her own insecurities. Besides seeing them doesn't mean you have to start spilling some deep dark family secrets straight away. I mean when will it stop? First she'll find an excuse that you need to finish college, then to find a job, then to find a better job, buy a house, get married, have kids... when is it going to be good enough? I'm sorry if I misunderstood something, I haven't read your first post, but I just think you should stand up for yourself. My mom died when she was 50, so many things I wish I could've had time to tell her and do with her. Any day can be the last for your loved ones, so postponing is never a good idea.
Thank you. I will contact her. The only "secret" I need to tell her is the fact that, as a minor, my communication with her and the others was heavily censored/monitored. It was never my intention to ignore them or to come off as distant. I will ask her not to tell my family. I won't be completely transparent at this stage because, well, they are like strangers to me. I barely know them.
Should I contact my aunt/godmother?
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I think it's completely wrong of your mom to try an manipulate you in this way. They are your family and you have the right to see them whenever you want, and vice versa, they have the right to see you. The only way it wouldn't be a good idea was if they imposed some sort of a danger on you, which I don't think is the problem. A family will love you regardless of how successful you are, if your mom thinks otherwise, it's her own insecurities. Besides seeing them doesn't mean you have to start spilling some deep dark family secrets straight away. I mean when will it stop? First she'll find an excuse that you need to finish college, then to find a job, then to find a better job, buy a house, get married, have kids... when is it going to be good enough? I'm sorry if I misunderstood something, I haven't read your first post, but I just think you should stand up for yourself. My mom died when she was 50, so many things I wish I could've had time to tell her and do with her. Any day can be the last for your loved ones, so postponing is never a good idea.
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Thank you. I will contact her. The only "secret" I need to tell her is the fact that, as a minor, my communication with her and the others was heavily censored/monitored. It was never my intention to ignore them or to come off as distant. I will ask her not to tell my family. I won't be completely transparent at this stage because, well, they are like strangers to me. I barely know them.