Should i be trying to fix this or not?

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After some things that have happened in the past I have given up on love. I just feel love and dating is a total waste of time and any time I start to like a woman I feel there is no way she will like me and I just feel that no woman is ever going to want me. After what has happened I also feel scared to start a relationship as well. I have developed a strong case of gynephobia towards women I don't know.

Should I be trying to fix this or is it ok to decide my dating life is over and be content with it and should I just be a hermit.

This is a serious question, not a joke. I am looking for mature answers thanks. I am not trying to cause offence with this question just ask for advice.

You, should be fixing this problem. 9
You should just be content and give up on dating. 2
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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    I think you should do what comes naturally, and be honest with yourself. If you feel disturbed you may want to work with a therapist to try to make sense of it all.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Yeah, I do. I find myself being scared of women when I am in public. If a woman looks at me it makes me scared, if a woman gets too close to me I freak out and move away and if a woman talks to me I also freak out and the only thing that is in my mind is leaving as fast as I can. I don't mean to be offensive and it is not that I hate women. I just can't help it. :(

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  • Beecherbabyok
    6 years ago

    You should work on this. There are lots of relationship adventures out there for everyone.

    Pro tip: don't call it gynephobia.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Why don't you call it that? All that means is "a fear of women." It describes what it is.

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  • pyralspiteful
    6 years ago

    I'd say fix it, but slowly. Start by introducing yourself to a few women in a friendly manner, maybe with a friend. After you're comfortable with that, see if you can work your way up to being comfortable again. Best of luck!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thank you. Women in public are the women I am most scared of. If a woman in public looks at me it makes me scared. If a woman in public gets physically too close to me and women in public seem to get physically close to me reasonably often it really freaks me out. I can't help it.

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      • pyralspiteful
        6 years ago

        I'd suggest taking someone or something with you that makes you feel safe, so you find it easier to speak to them

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Yeah, I had a woman on Sunday ask a favor from me in public and I said yes even though I felt a bit nervous.

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          • pyralspiteful
            6 years ago

            That's a good start!

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              Thank you. I am trying to get my confidence back with women that I don't know but I think it will take time.

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  • mrydan28
    6 years ago

    I say if you want love, give love. In everything you do. In the end the love we take is equal to the love we make. You may not always get it from person you give it to, but the more that you put out, it will come to you.

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    • Murun
      6 years ago

      Paul McCartney is on iin!

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      • mrydan28
        6 years ago

        I know when Chris Farley interviewed him, he very much so believed that to be true

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  • bulbasaur64
    6 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with taking a break from dating. Lots of people do, and it can be a good opportunity to focus on other areas of your life. You can keep open the possibility of dating in the future without necessarily having any plans to date now.

    I agree with other commenters that it might be good to look into therapy, though, since having a fear of woman sounds like a very difficult thing to experience and like it could really interfere in daily life. You deserve to be happy and to not have to deal with so much anxiety.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    It sounds to me as if you need some professional help to get over whatever happened in the past and move on; you seem to have serious self esteem issues which you're unlikely to be able to "fix" by yourself

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Yeah, I think you are right. Thanks for being nice about it.

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Give up and keep dating and love might just fall in your lap.

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    • ITCHYGOUCH
      6 years ago

      you are seriously deranged.

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    • Ellenna
      6 years ago

      You are joking, right?

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      • nikkiclaire
        6 years ago

        No I'm not joking.

        When people stop looking for love they usually tend to be more themselves and thus attract more like minded people. It's a pretty well known phenomenom.

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        • Ellenna
          6 years ago

          Where's your evidence that this is a "pretty well known phenomenom"? Sounds like newage bullshit to me

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          • nikkiclaire
            6 years ago

            Well, to be fair I don't think it works on fossils.

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            • Ellenna
              6 years ago

              If you're calling me a fossil I have to laugh: I've been called lots of things but never a fossil before!

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        • ITCHYGOUCH
          6 years ago

          is there a bit of your brain missing ,or injured,seriously you can not be for real,seek psychiatric help immediately.

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