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If I’m not at my boyfriends house should he text me and tell me he’s going to a bar with his friends if he does? should boyfriend and girlfriends have to tell each other where they go?
Normal for some couples, not normal for others. I know someone whose bloke texts her every night to make sure she's ok & has got home safely. It'd drive me crazy but she loves it.
I don't think that he should tell you everytime he moves but then each couple works differently. Don't feel entitled to tell him about your evey movement if it doesn't feel right.
Minute by minute, no, however..I think it's respectful and the right thing to do to at least tell the other person, hey, I'm going for a few drinks with the guys, talk to you later. Just shows that the person respects the other to show, hey, here's where I'll be if you need me.
It's also about trust. If he says where he's going, don't text him a million times or hunt him down. That only causes problems. Trust is huge in relationships.
It really depends on the people, so you need to set the expectations with your mate. But, my experience is once people are in an exclusive relationship and with each other almost daily, they check in with each other. So, in this case, the one going out would shoot a text saying something like “heading out with the guys/ladies. Thinking of you”. If they go on to a different bar that night, I don’t think they should have to report in about their new location. Some people may have a different view on that.
If you're into having a monogamous relationship it's not really healthy or productive to keep tabs on where they are all the time. It can be really annoying and creepy.
If you're both into that kinda thing. I think it's cute and shows you care. You know with married couples, the classic 'honey I'll be home in 15 min, just stopping off at the grocery store' kinda thing. It'll prep you, but if your boyfriend/girlfriend is a bit of a rebel, he/she may feel they are being kept tabs on, so again, depends on you and your level of cuteness
It seems to me fine if you both want to regularly touch-base with each other and let each other know what you're up to. It's something else if you feel you _have_ to do this, particularly if one of you feels pressured to do so while the other doesn't bother. That gets into creepy, manipulative, and mistrustful territory.
No two people are perfectly matched in every possible way, so relationships are about negotiation. Some things will be non-negotiable, but in a healthy relationship, both people are willing to give a little, try to understand the viewpoint and concerns of the other person, and accept that compromises are sometimes needed.