She held grudge against me even tho i was the hurt one, iin?

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I joined a lesbian meet up off Facebook 10 months ago, met the host/admin 7 times irl approx. We chatted almost every time, shes hugged me, and usually gravitated towards each other. Bene drunk with her, had selfies. The second time I met her, she asked me if anyone has ever asked if I may have autism. I felt hurt and therefore sent her the following message
Amy, I domt know you and what you said about me possibly having autism hurt and I felt insulted. I never felt like you and your partner took a liking to me since day one and to only had met u one other time and not seen you in 4 months hurt. All I wanted was to be accepted and be part of an LGBT group. She replied explaining she never meant to hurt my feelings and has many friends with it etc. I felt we had sorted it but apparently ever since that night 6 months ago, shes held a grudge against me and been weary of what she says and how she acts w me. Is this normal? Of I were someone else, would she have acted the same or is she just holding a grudge against me?

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Clunk42

4 years ago | pl

It sounds like you were just being a wimp to me. If you don't have autism, just say you don't and move on. If you do, say you do and move on.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Na I asked about 15 people and everyone of them said that was rude af of her to say
  
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  - Clunk42
    
    4 years ago
    
    It was somewhat rude, but you're still being a wimp about it.
    
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      4 years ago
      
      Haha
      
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        4 years ago
        
        I wasn't joking. I don't get why you're laughing. I was being serious.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        Hahhahah
        
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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

Sounds like you somehow freaked her out after you got booty hurt about her comment. Maybe you do have some traits that remind her of autistic people she knows?

If I were in your shoes I would have asked her what is it about me that reminds her of autistic people she's known in the past. I know her comment hurt your feelings, but that doesn't mean that she said that with the intention of hurting your feelings.

I've had people say all sorts of jacked up shit to me, and sometimes I handle it better than others. The worst experience I've had within recent memory was probably over four years ago when my car had died, and I accepted a ride from this person who basically gave me a whole list of things she thought were wrong with me on the ride home. It was especially bad, because I felt trapped as I had no other way home.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Why would she be freaked out tho?? Surely, she has had worse encounters? She has met all.sorts of walks of life as she is the leader of this group after all. What does she do when her fiancee gets pissed off with her? Does she gt butthurt nd void her for days even.though they live together or does she sweep it under the rug like she did with me until I had the balls to ask her wtf is up her asshole.
  Also, I'm sorry you had that experience, people are cunts! I thought being LGBT, people would like and respect me more. Also, her and I are the only pretty and femme ones in the group, kinda surprised she didnt take a liking to me..
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    I dunno why she would be freaked out, it's just a suggestion. I hope you don't mind me saying, but it sounds like you might have had a little bit of a crush on her at one point. I dunno why she would have thought to ask you if you were autistic. Has anyone ever asked you that before?
    
    Thanks for your condolences regarding my bad experience. Yeah, people can be real jerks sometimes.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      No, no one has ever asked me that ever! Yes, I found her attractive before we met, and when we met I had instant crush and had hoped she found me cute as well
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        Yeah, but she was already in a relationship with someone else.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        So? Doesn't stop me from catching feels or it doesn't change her beauty
        
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Mammal-lover

4 years ago

You over reacted, you should of confronted her about it immediately and asked her why. Not hold a grudge like that. It simply could of been resolved in a second with both parties sound plus being autistic I'd normal. I've met like 20 peoolevehove told me they got it

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- Clunk42
  
  4 years ago
  
  Not to insult those with autism, but OP's acting pretty autistic up in my comment thread by showing a complete lack of social graces in her response to criticism.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    4 years ago
    
    You sound butthurt xD
    
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    - Clunk42
      
      4 years ago
      
      Says the typing typing "Hahahha" in response to legitimate criticism.
      
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        4 years ago
        
        Hahahaha butthurt
        
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        Clunk42
        
        4 years ago
        
        I question what makes you think such a thing.
        
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strawberryfieldsforever

4 years ago

If shes explained that it wasn't to hurt your feelings I'd leave it at that and let it go honestly. I wouldn't stress about it but I can get where you're coming from when you say it would offend you.

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litelander8

4 years ago

You post about this group often. It seems that you put to much effort and energy into trying to be one of them.

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cripplingdepressionman

4 years ago

Well i doubt she was trying to insult you. Its kind of weird hanging out with someone who you think hates you. OR she feels guilty

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Anonymous Post Author

4 years ago

Riight, I kinda figured she would have taken it that way and also wondered if she herself had it too...
I believe I handled myself well, I didnt berrate, insult or cuss at her. I formulated a text which expressed my upset plus we were both tipsy.
Look, hee is the original text I sent her that night:

Amy, I dont know what to say, I guess I'm taken aback a little. Yes my social anxiety fucks it up for me especially with communication and certain people trigger me more. All I ever wanted was to be apart of an LGBT group, try over come my issues. I do feel like you were trying to insult me even though you said otherwise. I never felt like Sara and yourself took a liking to me. That wasnt my issue, I just wanted to feel accepted

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FromTheSouthWeirdMan

4 years ago

Ive always noticed if there too many girls together the estrogen levels get so high they start bickering over small girly problems. This is why women do well with men around because a man would tell yall "No one cares" and then you'd get over it. 🤣

naw but really tho not trying to start shit but its sooo true.

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  4 years ago
  
  HAHHAHA
  
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Iszzy123

4 years ago

I’d would of been a smart ass and said “idk do I look like a psychiatrist*

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DIO

4 years ago

You sound autistic.

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- Clunk42
  
  4 years ago
  
  I agree. Especially in my comment thread.
  
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    4 years ago
    
    Hahahha
    
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    - Clunk42
      
      4 years ago
      
      Next thing you know, OP's going to throw a rock through my window that says "Hahahahahhhhha".
      
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        4 years ago
        
        Yus
        
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She held grudge against me even tho i was the hurt one, iin?