Sexually harrassed by my father

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(19 year old male)

When I was 15 child protective services came to my house because a crazy family member with delusions said that my sister and I were being hurt by my dad. My dad took a lie detector test and passed, case closed.

When I was 16 my dad started occasionally rubbing his crotch up against me. With my mom several feet away he gave me two big wet kisses on the next. I ran away yelling because I thought he gave me a hicky. Every couple months since then we could kiss me on the neack and act weird around me.

A few weeks ago my dad put his hands on my hips, crotch pressed up against my ass, and kissed me on the neck. A 6 months ago he did that in front of my mom. I have a weird feeling on the best of my neck thinking about his beard and wet lips touching me.

I have no idea what to do. I love my dad a lot and I don't want anything bad to happen to him. My mom had a shitty childhood and her only dream was to have a happy family. But something tells me what happened isn't right. It seems so pre-calculated. I posted this story on another website and the reply was "Get out. Leave now."

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olderdude-xx

3 years ago | pl

Your father is making inappropriate sexual advances with you, and your mother likely knows and either believes that they are innocent or understands what is going on and has no objection.

It is very pre-calculated; and unless you stop it or get out of the house this is very likely to end up with you having sex with your father (repeatedly - and likely often), and not of your own free will.

I believe that it is best if you contact the child protection office and remind them of the previous case and what is going on.

That "crazy" family member might not be so crazy, and might be someone safe for you to stay with.

Also, do you know anyone else that you like in the family or the parents of a freind who you would like to live with, as once this is reported you will likely need other living options (and I believe that is appropriate).

You may love and care for your parents and family; but, please for your own safety and future.. report it and plan on living somewhere else for at least a while. Young Ladies in your situation are normally allowed to have contact and do some things with their parents, even if living with another relative or other party.

I wish you the best with this,

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SwickDinging

3 years ago

"Get out. Leave now."

Yeah. This, really.

Defintely not normal. And please don't feel that you have to put up with being abused just because your mum had a bad childhood and now wants a happy family. Her happiness is not your responsibility.

If, God forbid, my husband did this to one of my children, I would be heartbroken if they felt they couldn't tell me for fear of making me unhappy. I would want to know so that I could protect them. I would never want them to suffer in silence.

If your mum is any kind of decent mum then she will care about your safety and wellbeing much more than she does about a facade of a perfect family.

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chuy

3 years ago

It's called sexual abuse no harassment

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litelander8

3 years ago

Get a job. Get the fuck out. You’re very young but it would be very big of you to be able to tell you’re mom about this. Either she knows and isn’t stopping it or she’s just naive. I personally, think she knows. But if you don’t say anything, you’ll never know if things could’ve been different. And thinking about your other sibling is important too... do you know if she’s experienced the same things with your dad?

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- James1515
  
  3 years ago
  
  My sister has one or two weird stories that would other wise be nothing if it wasn't for my shit
  
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verynormalusername

3 years ago

Who tf would think this is normal? Is it normal? No, thats common sense.

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raisinbran

3 years ago

Is the delusional family member putting false memories in your head? Are you the delusional family member? He passed a lie detector test. Maybe you want him to do those things, or maybe you’re twisting an innocent hug into something worse. Your writing suggests some level of schizophrenia. Advice is same as others, leave.

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- a-curious-bunny
  
  3 years ago
  
  You do realize lie detector tests arnt applicable in court because they are easily cheated. Not to mention they don't actually exist. Look into it the storie on that one is quite interesting.
  
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- James1515
  
  3 years ago
  
  That person isn't putting false memories in my head, that person never discussed it at all with me. We didn't talk much anyways. she doesn't have schizophrenia it's something else, not sure.
  
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Schizotravestie

3 years ago

Je pense que cela fait longtemps que ça dure mais vous l'avez occulté.
Parlez avec votre sœur et essayez de vous renseigner pour partir tout en gardant un logement.
Vos parents sont des pervers. Fuyez.

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- James1515
  
  3 years ago
  
  Utilisation de Google Translate. Vous faites un bon point et vous avez probablement raison. Je suis sous le choc, je ne sais pas quoi faire. Tout va bien avec de l'encodens bizarre entre les deux. Ma mère est nieve et probablement sous le choc. Je n'ai pas mentionné cela auparavant, mais ma sœur a eu ses pieds embrassés par mon père dans la même période que j'ai eu certaines des pires incodences (elle a 16 ans). Comment mon père, quelqu'un que j'ai connu toute ma vie, pourrait-il faire quelque chose comme ça? Je n'ai littéralement nulle part où aller. J'aime toujours mon père. Si je ne termine pas ma cinquième année de lycée, je n'obtiens pas mon déplome, et j'aurais probablement besoin de poursuivre mon école privée et peut-être le «Board of Education» de mon état aux États-Unis. J'ai tellement peur et confusion.
  
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  - Schizotravestie
    
    3 years ago
    
    Je ne sais pas comment vous conseiller. Peut-être qu'il faut vous rapprocher d'une association qui lutte contre mes violences familiales ?
    En tout cas il faut protéger votre sœur.
    
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    - James1515
      
      3 years ago
      
      Je vous apprécie d'avoir pris le temps de répondre. Cela n'a toujours aucun sens. Honnêtement, je ne suis pas trop inquiet pour ma sœur, mais peut-être que je devrais lui en parler, peut-être même lui montrer ça. Mon père m'emmène sur des bandes sympas et fait des trucs avec moi bien plus que ma sœur. Mon père et moi prendrons un train dans la ville cool près de chez moi et avons même voyagé dans un pays cool que j'aime récemment. Il y a des périodes où tout est normal et puis pendant un moment quelque chose de foutu se produit. Peut-être que mon père me soigne, je n'en ai aucune idée. Tout cela est si déroutant et absolument sensé.
      
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      - Schizotravestie
        
        3 years ago
        
        Oui montre à ta sœur
        
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Somenormie

3 years ago

Your dad is a disgrace to the human race.

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- James1515
  
  3 years ago
  
  I don't want to belive that, but you may be right
  
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RoseIsabella

3 years ago

Call the police! That family member of yours was NOT crazy, or delusional. If anything the family member you mentioned probably saw all the red flags of what your father is doing now. You should see that relative as a hero, not as a delusional, crazy person. YOUR FATHER BELONGS BEHIND BARS!!!

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- a-curious-bunny
  
  3 years ago
  
  Yea his dad sounds pretty disturbed. If I was op I'd contact that that person and find out exactly why they called what they saw etc. Get an outside perspective
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    3 years ago
    
    Yes! That person probably saw grooming behaviors that were not obvious to OP.
    
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    - a-curious-bunny
      
      3 years ago
      
      Most likley. Dude sounds like someone who would groom. Surprising the dad waited so long
      
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- James1515
  
  3 years ago
  
  That family member is actually crazy though. He/she has scarring on their brain from a stroke. Everything was fine until after.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    3 years ago
    
    Then how do you explain your dad being a predator. I think you should talk to the relative, ask them what was going on, because they obviously saw some red flags that no one else saw. Call the cops on your pedophile father.
    
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ChrisDerrig666

3 years ago

They want you in bed.

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BrickQueen

3 years ago

Get out now! This is sexual abuse. It isn't ok. Period. Report him and your mother. She is complicit as well for not doing anything about it.

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James1515

3 years ago

Can someone appoint me to some online resources to learn about this issue or something like that? I have no idea what to do. Between the incodense everything is totally normal. I can't fuck things up at home, it would be too messy.

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James1515

3 years ago

Update: Leaving can't happen anytime soon. I'm doing a post-grad year in hs bc of the pandemic and if I don't finish I don't get my deploma. I'm on meds with serious withdraw symptoms. The cost of living here is one of the highest in the world.

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- litelander8
  
  3 years ago
  
  You are 19. I agree with WeirdGuy. Stand up for yourself. Tell him to get his dick off you. Keep away from him. Lock the door. Make sure your sister is also safe regardless of how small she’s making things out to be. Worse come to worse, look up local shelters.
  
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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

3 years ago

stun gun to the dick

problem solved

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- James1515
  
  3 years ago
  
  Pretty sure those are banned where I live🤣
  
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James1515

3 years ago

Note: I can't stand the kissing noise now, it makes me uncomftrible. There is another incident or 2 but this seems like enouph.

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