Sexual frustration

77% Normal
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I am a chill 18 year old chick...I have been with my boyfriend the past 4 years. He's the only man I've ever been sexual with, and when I was younger he always satisfied me sexually. But the past few months I feel like I can't get any satisfaction from our sex. I find myself fantasizing about other men, and I am constantly trying to fill my sexual frustration with masturbation. I'm in love with him though, and I would feel like shit for leaving him over this. But I also feel like shit for staying with him and sexually wanting other men. Is it normal to have these feelings even when you're in love with your partner?

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77% Normal
Based on 13 votes (10 yes)
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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    This is Normal when young and a sign of not sharing your desires. Most likely he us to embarrassed to share his also! But try harder if you want this relationship to really work out. Sometimes only one partner puts forth all the effort to keep the sex exciting and new, and that's works somewhat. But when both share their fantasy and desires, and works to keep it exciting, it can be mind blowing and wonderful. If you are one of the special ones and I sense you are, then make the effort!

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    • cougarpaws
      10 years ago

      thank you, that is really helpful! I appreciate your advice

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  • YouKnowWho
    10 years ago

    I'm not sure it's normal and i'm not sure what you should do about it, but, please, no matter what happens, don't ever give up someone you really like just because of sex issues.

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    • cougarpaws
      10 years ago

      I agree, I love him far to much to give up for such a shallow reason.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    Hope the advice works for you, just drop a line or two anytime for advice. Many here give good advice and some are just about something else. So feel free to share and hopefully I can assist you in your time of need.

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    • cougarpaws
      10 years ago

      thank you! very appreciated

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  • Maya05
    10 years ago

    This is definitely something you should bring up with him. Maybe not mention the fantasizing about other men part, but talk to him that you haven't been feeling the same way about sex as you used to. A lot of people can't do the same thing and still expect the same results years later, you have to change it up. Explore each others inner desires or fetishes and it could really add enjoyment. Obviously you have to compromise with what he wants as well. I guess what I'm saying is to just talk to him about it. Just don't make it sound like its his fault, he might not even be aware that you are unhappy.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    It's normal to desire sexual satisfaction when you're not receiving it, and to fantasise about other men because of this. You should tentatively inform your man that you want something more than what you're receiving. Try and make things more exciting and pleasurable in the bedroom. He may well be unaware that anything is wrong, ESPECIALLY if you're a good liar.

    So why not try and make things more sexually fulfilling for you, rather than settling for what you have and contemplating leaving him. Don't give up. Try something new or different.

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    • cougarpaws
      10 years ago

      you're exactly right! I can't expect things to change if I don't communicate to him how I'm feeling. I appreciate your advice!

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Why not just cheat on him? You''ll probably get away with it.

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