Sexless for 5 years is it normal after a breakup?

Start with a good toy...

I've not banged in 9 years. But I've had plenty of opportunity

You're afraid you're going to tell the wrong one, "yes".

Okay so the two men that I was talking about are not the same man! the one that got in trouble for child pronography and the one that broke my heart to complete different men! the one that got in trouble for child pronography was someone that was like a stepfather to me I've known him since I was a child and I trusted him a lot but as soon as we found out about that, I told him he was no longer welcome!

The one that broke my heart it's my baby's dad and I gave him another chance ( 1 date date ! ) is because he was diagnosed with schizophrenia and I've always believed in unconditional love and even though we're not actually married we do have a child together so I figured you know while we were together he never actually treated me bad it was actually one of the best relationships I ever had the only thing is he started to use and he got the schizophrenia from the Dr u g use and I got pregnant and when I got pregnant he became paranoid and wanted me to have an abortion we didn't agree so we went our separate ways for about 2 years we ended up making our way back yo each other, and again the whole hopeless romantic thing if you let to someone go and they come back then, it's meant to be right! so yeah that's me!!! Lol anyhow he never really treated me wrong he's never called me out of my name never even raised his voice at me, nothing like that !!! The only thing he ever did that broke my heart was leave while I was pregnant and it devastated me!

It's not normal to go that long without sex

You need to find a good enough man. Not a perfect man, just one who is good enough

If you're looking for a long-term relationship, then I would hope that anyone you consider a potential partner would hang around long enough for you to discuss, at least in general outline, your personal history and why you have trust issues. Anybody worthy of your long-term attention should be willing to give you at least a little time to work things out in your head and feel more confident about him. If they're not willing to do that, you can be sure they're really not that interested in you.

If you're just looking for hook-ups, then I guess you just have to sort this out on your own, since it's probably not the sort of thing you want to dump into that sort of conversation.

Anyway, it's not like having an active sex life involving other people is a requirement to be a fully-fledged member of the human race. Abstinence - or solo sex - is a valid choice. The only question is what you need to be happy.

There are about 3 billion men in the world, so the idea that there's one "Mr Right" and you might "shoot him down" is, frankly, silly. Assuming you're not a totally unique weirdo, there will be a lot of guys with whom you could be happy (assuming you're both willing to do the normal sort of work necessary for all relationships).

Finally, do I read your question right? You went back to the guy you had the really bad break-up with? This was the child-porn guy?

So you're rejecting other guys who might be great or at least okay, but you're willing to give another chance to someone who you _know_ hurt you, and who you _know_ to have serious issues?

If that is what happened, don't you think that's a little... strange? Are you really that desperate?

I haven't had sex since my last relationship which ended 8 years ago. I just haven't been in a position to meet anyone and the online dating hasn't worked out. I am apparently unfuckable. At least you are a woman and can have sex whenever you want, but I feel your pain.

I hope to god it's not normal.