I'm conflict. I'd not dump my boyfriend if he lost his legs, but I would not pursue a relationship with someone who was handicapped.
Sorry but there's so many other nice guys that are able to walk ...
This said there is a girl for you, someone who isn't shallow or maybe someone who has a handicap of her own.
Handicapped is not a legitimate term to use about other people: like most people living with disabilities I'll bet he thinks he's "handicapped" by the world around him in general (eg lack of wheelchair access, condescending fuckwits) and (sorry to be repetitive) fuckwits like you.
If you want to educate yourself about disability rights, google Stella Young, fantastic strong advocate who died a few days ago
Oh please, Political correctness irks the shit out of me. He is handicapped and I have a psychiatric disorder (ADHD)
using nicer words about things doesn't make the situation any better.
How did you come to the conclusion that I was a "fuckwit"? Because I answered to OP's question that it wouldn't be a thing for me?
I don't give a stuff about what you call political correctness but I do care about respect and the term handicapped is not respectful and I would've thought hadn't been used since the 60's, but maybe that's where you're still living?
And you are a fuckwit because you don't seem to realise that it's not about using "nicer" words: words have meanings and convey attitudes, that's what they're for, and to a person with a disability "handicapped" has quite a different meaning than "person with a disability".
My response had nothing to do with the fact that sex with someone in a wheelchair wouldn't interest you, it was your reasons I was referring to.
Did you bother to check out the reference I gave you about disability advocacy? I'll bet you didn't .... let's talk again when you can discuss that with me.
I'm in Australia and it's 2014. The reference I gave you will take you to pages of tributes to Stella Young who died recently, but even if you just have a look at her Ted Talk I think you'll find it interesting.
Seems to me that if carers use the term "people with disability" that's probably because that's what their clients prefer: the rationale behind putting the word "people" first is so that they are seen as people who happen to have a disability, rather than the disability being to the forefront. Anyway, we all need to remember we're only one car accident/illness/severe assault away from disability
Where are you from? Around here it's perfectly fine to use handicapped, even though people who work with these people use "People with disability" rather than handicapped.
Might be a cultural issue, I'm from Sweden and around here it's frequently used, maybe not as "PC" as the word for disabled.
In my opinion these two words describe the very same thing, just put in nicer words.
And No, It's past midnight and I have a feeling that it will be a long read.
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I'm conflict. I'd not dump my boyfriend if he lost his legs, but I would not pursue a relationship with someone who was handicapped.
Sorry but there's so many other nice guys that are able to walk ...
This said there is a girl for you, someone who isn't shallow or maybe someone who has a handicap of her own.
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Handicapped is not a legitimate term to use about other people: like most people living with disabilities I'll bet he thinks he's "handicapped" by the world around him in general (eg lack of wheelchair access, condescending fuckwits) and (sorry to be repetitive) fuckwits like you.
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Oh please, Political correctness irks the shit out of me. He is handicapped and I have a psychiatric disorder (ADHD)
using nicer words about things doesn't make the situation any better.
How did you come to the conclusion that I was a "fuckwit"? Because I answered to OP's question that it wouldn't be a thing for me?
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I don't give a stuff about what you call political correctness but I do care about respect and the term handicapped is not respectful and I would've thought hadn't been used since the 60's, but maybe that's where you're still living?
And you are a fuckwit because you don't seem to realise that it's not about using "nicer" words: words have meanings and convey attitudes, that's what they're for, and to a person with a disability "handicapped" has quite a different meaning than "person with a disability".
My response had nothing to do with the fact that sex with someone in a wheelchair wouldn't interest you, it was your reasons I was referring to.
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I'm in Australia and it's 2014. The reference I gave you will take you to pages of tributes to Stella Young who died recently, but even if you just have a look at her Ted Talk I think you'll find it interesting.
Seems to me that if carers use the term "people with disability" that's probably because that's what their clients prefer: the rationale behind putting the word "people" first is so that they are seen as people who happen to have a disability, rather than the disability being to the forefront. Anyway, we all need to remember we're only one car accident/illness/severe assault away from disability
Where are you from? Around here it's perfectly fine to use handicapped, even though people who work with these people use "People with disability" rather than handicapped.
Might be a cultural issue, I'm from Sweden and around here it's frequently used, maybe not as "PC" as the word for disabled.
In my opinion these two words describe the very same thing, just put in nicer words.
And No, It's past midnight and I have a feeling that it will be a long read.