Men and women are valued for different things, though those things do overlap. And that's for the simple reason that men and women are attracted to different traits in each other. So the things men tend to be attracted to in women will increase the value of the woman, and same for the things that women are attracted to in men. Now the traits that are considered masculine, and so increase a male's attractiveness and value seem to be dictated by both society (and its needs) and biology (the things that ensue from the general male temper and impulses), and the contrast that result with feminine traits is what makes a (straight) woman attracted to the man, and what makes society value those masculine traits that make a man. And all of that goes for women and feminine traits as well.
Men are attracted to women who are less of a man than they are, and value those traits that make them feel masculine in contrast, and women are attracted to men that are more of a man than they are (whether in physical size, strength, roughness, social power and status and wealth and authority and dominance, and so on), and so they value those traits that make a man more masculine and powerful, which by the same token will make them feel women and girly in contrast.
That, in a nutshell, is how heterosexuality works.
Now it's not clear what you're complaining about in your post exactly. Sounds like you got some kind of unsollicited advice or suggestion from guys, about what they think you should wear. But that's more an issue of some random people being socially unsavvy and rude than anything else.
Seriously Guys..
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Men and women are valued for different things, though those things do overlap. And that's for the simple reason that men and women are attracted to different traits in each other. So the things men tend to be attracted to in women will increase the value of the woman, and same for the things that women are attracted to in men. Now the traits that are considered masculine, and so increase a male's attractiveness and value seem to be dictated by both society (and its needs) and biology (the things that ensue from the general male temper and impulses), and the contrast that result with feminine traits is what makes a (straight) woman attracted to the man, and what makes society value those masculine traits that make a man. And all of that goes for women and feminine traits as well.
Men are attracted to women who are less of a man than they are, and value those traits that make them feel masculine in contrast, and women are attracted to men that are more of a man than they are (whether in physical size, strength, roughness, social power and status and wealth and authority and dominance, and so on), and so they value those traits that make a man more masculine and powerful, which by the same token will make them feel women and girly in contrast.
That, in a nutshell, is how heterosexuality works.
Now it's not clear what you're complaining about in your post exactly. Sounds like you got some kind of unsollicited advice or suggestion from guys, about what they think you should wear. But that's more an issue of some random people being socially unsavvy and rude than anything else.