Looks like 90% or more of the responses are 'but what about the men?' or 'nuh-uh' or 'why this is actually women's fault'. Jesus Christ, you posed a legitimate issue and it can't get addressed for what it is.
I think part of the problem with posts like yours is that men see it as a personal attack and most men honestly do not believe they participate in what you describe because it's often not a conscious purposeful behavior. Few people are willing to really critically examine themselves, thus you just get these knee-jerk reactions.
This issue you posed is something that evolves from childhood, differences in how boys and girls are raised, the emphasis on appearance for girls from an early age, etc. Some of the comments act as if we are raised in a vacuum and just appear into the world as rational, free thinking adults like magic one day, no influences at all and everyting
we do is pure free will.
Women might not admit this happens to them because it's so normalized they might not even notice it anymore or might not see it as being as bad as it really is. Or maybe they fight admitting it because it's unpleasant to confront the fact that (in general, among society at large) you are mostly valued for your appearance.
Seriously Guys..
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Looks like 90% or more of the responses are 'but what about the men?' or 'nuh-uh' or 'why this is actually women's fault'. Jesus Christ, you posed a legitimate issue and it can't get addressed for what it is.
I think part of the problem with posts like yours is that men see it as a personal attack and most men honestly do not believe they participate in what you describe because it's often not a conscious purposeful behavior. Few people are willing to really critically examine themselves, thus you just get these knee-jerk reactions.
This issue you posed is something that evolves from childhood, differences in how boys and girls are raised, the emphasis on appearance for girls from an early age, etc. Some of the comments act as if we are raised in a vacuum and just appear into the world as rational, free thinking adults like magic one day, no influences at all and everyting
we do is pure free will.
Women might not admit this happens to them because it's so normalized they might not even notice it anymore or might not see it as being as bad as it really is. Or maybe they fight admitting it because it's unpleasant to confront the fact that (in general, among society at large) you are mostly valued for your appearance.