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Question for the women. Does having a good sense of humor and not being nervous and awkward help make up for being very unattractive when attracting women? Check the box and comment if you like.
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None of those are really a deal breaker. Do you have a good heart, don't play games and do you live up to your word. That's what I look for in a friend and partner man or woman.
Reliability and consistancy trump looks, nervousness or sense of humor any day.
Read my second response to RoseIsabella when describing my hour long appointment with this girl while applying for social security. It seems very much like an example how someone can not like how you look at first but then you can change their opinions of you while other good qualities of yours start showing. I know that I'm very unattractive because I've been told that I am by many people and I rarely get many smiles and friendliness from someone until they spend more than a few minutes with me. Really good looking people get big smiles and flirtation right off the bat, but if their inner qualities suck, then they can start losing that friendliness, the complete opposite of what I've gotten. Read my second response to Rose about my hour long session with social security girl.
I can see how that would help, but it also depends on who's looking. Not everyone judges what is beautiful and what is ugly the same way. We are not all the same!
That's true, but there are some people that are going to have a higher percentage of people find them attractive, and others where fewer people will find them attractive. But the decent people won't find it matters and they won't ignore other good qualities in someone just for them not being attractive.
I think that there are beautiful people with awful personalities that make them look ugly, and their are less than beautiful people whose personalities makes them beautiful.
Also, a lot of people have a type or a preference. For example, a lot of people don't like red hair and freckles, but I really like it. If I could wake up tomorrow and have naturally blonde hair or naturally red hair growing out of my head I would want it red.
Actually, I do recall an appointment I had with a woman when I was applying for social security. The intake appointment took close to an hour, you know where you're being asked a load of questions. Anyway, she was pretty curt and unfriendly at first during the first 5-10 minutes, but I had a really cool, relaxed attitude, and a sense of humor. About 10-15 minutes in, she was acting more relaxed and smiled for the first time, and a little while later into the session, I make this joke and she just cracked up laughing and said how I made her day. And at the start of the session, she was so abrupt and humorless, no smiling. Her attitude completely transformed throughout that hour. Doesn't that sound like an example of someone who probably didn't care for my looks at first but then totally changed her opinion of me due to my other good qualities as they started showing?
Being attractive isnt the only trait women are looking for.
As others have said, it also matters how responsible and reliable are you. Those are two other important qualities women look for in a man. Do you work hard? That’s another way to impress a lady. How dedicated are you to your work, and can she trust your words. It doesn’t hurt to learn new skills to impress a lady. You could try to impress her with cooking, for example.
How do you see yourself as ugly? There are ways you can appear more attractive (if you truly are ugly.) Do you lift weights, shave or have a neat beard, are your clothes neat, teeth clean, hair not sloppy? In terms of physical attraction, girls are generally more attracted at how well you take care of your appearance. No girl wants a slob (not saying you are.)