Selfish douchebag or something deeper?

I’ve been dating this guy for a few months, (I’m 19 and he’s 22) and he’s really needy. I make more money and work more than he does, and he constantly tries to mooch cigarettes off me (he smokes almost my entire pack everytime we hang out) and asks for tons of other shit like backrubs, folding his laundry, and he even asks me to buy things for him sometimes. It’s really frustrating because he never gives back, and I felt super used for awhile because of it, but I’ve noticed it’s how he is with everybody he talks to so I’ve stopped taking it personally. However out of frustration I called him out on his shit and then he got mad at me saying he was offended and that “every girl says they’re being used” and he’s used to it. I’m the only girl who’s ever approached him before, (people think I’m really out of his league) and so I know he doesn’t want to lose me to at least some degree. He has an eerie vibe and he told me the same night that you could never know how a person actually is in so little time. And, I’m picking up some obvious signs he’s probably a little sketchy in the head. (Because so am I so I can see through him) he doesn’t have a mom, (and I’ve seen pictures of her, she’s really beautiful, but he doesn’t talk about her) and he has to take care of his handicap dad everyday. Sooooo what do you think?

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  • Dump him and start saving your money.

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  • Yeah, dump his ass. No one has time for a freeloader. It's only going to get worse if you stay.

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  • There’s plenty of other guys who won’t be so needy and won’t use your stuff. If your not happy with him leave. I’m a smoker and I am always asking people I work with if they have a smoke but if I feel I’ve taken to much next paycheck I buy them a pack a smokes to show I’m not a needy asshole and I care that they helped me when I was broke. He sounds like an asshole to me.

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  • He should be the one giving you cigarettes and buying you free shit. Men arent supposed to be broke. If a man is broke he doesnt deserve a good girl. Either he gets a good job on the quick quick or you should break it off. Theres no future with him.

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  • Dump his loser ass! He ain't nuthin, but a mope, and a mooch. Why do you wanna even waste time with someone like him? This relationship is bad for your self-esteem. Ask your father if this is the kinda guy he wants you to be going with.

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  • Do you like him?

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  • leave

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  • See if it was the guy buying shit and having the girl mooch of him it would be normal.

    Get over it honey. It's what most women have been doing for years and years.

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    • Yeah maybe it’s a stereotype, but I don’t do that shit so I don’t want the guy I’m dating to either

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  • Not what I expected, I thought you were talking about Trump. To answer the question, you need to leave his ass he sounds like trouble.

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  • Sounds like a sociopath to me. If you want, you can read 'The Sociopath Next Door' there's a story in there (a real one) that sounds similar to me. I don't know if it actually is since I don't know everything but it's worth a read.

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  • He is mentally needy, and physically needs things from you? You need to marry this winner asap.

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  • I think your secret is not so secret.

    And...if you don't like him, dump him.

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    • How so

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      • "im breaking up with you"
        "this isnt working out"
        or my personal fave
        "we are like 6 balls in cricket, over"
        or send the accidental text on purpose

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