Do you actually have bad social skills? Or do you just judge yourself harshly?
Id say it's normal for people with anxiety to feel that way and a lot of people have anxiety. My advice when nervous is to just confront itz face it and ask yourself deep and sepexific questions like "what about this is making me nervous" etc. Like example answer "making a bad imprssion in front of Jamie"... Dig deeper and realize no matter how you act you can't make everyone like you. So all you can do is be you. Because if you act like you, the people who like you will like YOU. And that's what you want out of relationships.
If you want to have things to say, read the newspaper and you'll be able to talk about the world better than 95% of people. In an interesting and relevant way. Most people have nothing to talk about but their work, or personal lives.
Thanks for the reply, that's what I needed.
I think I have both, bad social skills because I get so nervous and overthink and I'm scared to say something silly.
my self consists of being quiet, I hate speaking up unless I know it's something I can talk about.
scared about going out out!?
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Do you actually have bad social skills? Or do you just judge yourself harshly?
Id say it's normal for people with anxiety to feel that way and a lot of people have anxiety. My advice when nervous is to just confront itz face it and ask yourself deep and sepexific questions like "what about this is making me nervous" etc. Like example answer "making a bad imprssion in front of Jamie"... Dig deeper and realize no matter how you act you can't make everyone like you. So all you can do is be you. Because if you act like you, the people who like you will like YOU. And that's what you want out of relationships.
If you want to have things to say, read the newspaper and you'll be able to talk about the world better than 95% of people. In an interesting and relevant way. Most people have nothing to talk about but their work, or personal lives.
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Thanks for the reply, that's what I needed.
I think I have both, bad social skills because I get so nervous and overthink and I'm scared to say something silly.
my self consists of being quiet, I hate speaking up unless I know it's something I can talk about.
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You know what? You are just fine. Fuck everybody else if they don't like you as you are. Go out and RELAX. Have fun. Have a few drinks and RELAX.