You're completely right in your comment about attaction, and I realize the problem of what I said. I'm sorry about that. Of course you will feel attraction to other people, that's just the way people work. I guess what I meant was more that you should consider if you also have feelings approaching infatuation with Y & Z.
Another thing to consider is that periodically you have to test your progress by examining how you fare with other people. I think that in light of what you said about X, he might be a good person to enter into a relationship with to see how you are doing. But you probably need to have a conversation early on about your personal project of loving yourself and not needing anyone else so that he can respect your space and allow you to continue to work towards your goals.
By the way, is X even a 'he'? I'm sorry if I got that wrong; it really doesn't matter what this person's gender is but it hurts my soul to use the pronoun 'they' for a single person. That's not grammatically correct.
For the record, X is female. Getting involved with her will definitely challenge the degree to which I've become emotionally self-sufficient, whether I'm dealing with reciprocation or rejection. I just don't want anyone else to be in command of my emotions. I've already talked to her about this kind of thing, just not in the context of our relationship or even romance in general, and in fact if there's one thing we've avoided discussing in depth, it's our own relationship. Everything is pretty ambiguous. But I think I may ask her out to coffee this weekend.
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You're completely right in your comment about attaction, and I realize the problem of what I said. I'm sorry about that. Of course you will feel attraction to other people, that's just the way people work. I guess what I meant was more that you should consider if you also have feelings approaching infatuation with Y & Z.
Another thing to consider is that periodically you have to test your progress by examining how you fare with other people. I think that in light of what you said about X, he might be a good person to enter into a relationship with to see how you are doing. But you probably need to have a conversation early on about your personal project of loving yourself and not needing anyone else so that he can respect your space and allow you to continue to work towards your goals.
By the way, is X even a 'he'? I'm sorry if I got that wrong; it really doesn't matter what this person's gender is but it hurts my soul to use the pronoun 'they' for a single person. That's not grammatically correct.
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For the record, X is female. Getting involved with her will definitely challenge the degree to which I've become emotionally self-sufficient, whether I'm dealing with reciprocation or rejection. I just don't want anyone else to be in command of my emotions. I've already talked to her about this kind of thing, just not in the context of our relationship or even romance in general, and in fact if there's one thing we've avoided discussing in depth, it's our own relationship. Everything is pretty ambiguous. But I think I may ask her out to coffee this weekend.