I should clarify - by no means do I intend to go without human bonding for the rest of my life. What I meant was that I'm currently going through a period where I'm trying to learn how to love myself without being dependent on others to do that for me. Trust me, it's not an unhealthy rejection of all attachment, and in fact it's something that I've needed for a while. It's made me a much more well-rounded person so far.
And again, I didn't really mean for this to be counsel time for my petty problems. I just wanted to know what people thought about these things beyond pithy abstractions, and what their experiences have been.
I think you should go for it, I don't see why you wouldn't. If you think you are capable of being independent, then you don't need to test yourself any more. Just do what you want.
I honestly don't mean to patronize, but there isn't much by way of thumbnail wisdom that'll suddenly help me realize what I should do. I've heard all that before. But what would be novel to me is your personal experience with the matter, because I obviously haven't heard that. What have you done in the past?
But what I keep saying is that I'm NOT looking for anyone to tell me what to do. Most people just say something like "life's too short!" as if I hadn't heard that before or something. I'm not looking for you to give me some short little motto that'll suddenly give me an epiphany. Because that doesn't exist.
All I want is to hear what people's experiences have been, and whether they'd care to venture deeper than some quick expression that doesn't actually mean anything. So, for example, is there anything you've learned from either of those situations you mentioned?
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I should clarify - by no means do I intend to go without human bonding for the rest of my life. What I meant was that I'm currently going through a period where I'm trying to learn how to love myself without being dependent on others to do that for me. Trust me, it's not an unhealthy rejection of all attachment, and in fact it's something that I've needed for a while. It's made me a much more well-rounded person so far.
And again, I didn't really mean for this to be counsel time for my petty problems. I just wanted to know what people thought about these things beyond pithy abstractions, and what their experiences have been.
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I think you should go for it, I don't see why you wouldn't. If you think you are capable of being independent, then you don't need to test yourself any more. Just do what you want.
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But what are your experiences with this?
I honestly don't mean to patronize, but there isn't much by way of thumbnail wisdom that'll suddenly help me realize what I should do. I've heard all that before. But what would be novel to me is your personal experience with the matter, because I obviously haven't heard that. What have you done in the past?
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I went for "X" and they liked me too:) Only lasted 2 months though.
I've had friends who've went for "X" and one of them got rejected. She got over it though.
That doesn't help much, but it's I can't tell you what to do because I don't know how "X" would react.
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But what I keep saying is that I'm NOT looking for anyone to tell me what to do. Most people just say something like "life's too short!" as if I hadn't heard that before or something. I'm not looking for you to give me some short little motto that'll suddenly give me an epiphany. Because that doesn't exist.
All I want is to hear what people's experiences have been, and whether they'd care to venture deeper than some quick expression that doesn't actually mean anything. So, for example, is there anything you've learned from either of those situations you mentioned?