First, I think it's really messed up that you kept getting bounced from school to school. I'm very cynical about the value of school (not education per se, but rather the way schools operate), but the social aspect can play an important role in how kids develop.
As for your question, I'm a parent (for what that's worth - I make no claim to be the best father ever), and while I believe that what parents say to their kids matters, I'm certain that how kids see their parents behave matters a whole lot more. If you always treat people in crappy, "lowly", minimum wage jobs with kindness or at least respect, your kids are going to notice that and it's likely they'll model their behaviour on yours. If you have some understanding of how tough life can be for people in that social position and you occasionally mention things about that, it's likely that at least some of that will sink in. If you occasionally mention how fortunate you and your family are compared to others who've had life shit on them, and admit that you recognise that what success you've had is, to some degree, the result of the luck of the draw as well as the effort you've put into your education and career, then that might sink in too.
And I think it could be useful for you to talk to them about what you have here.
While I can see where you're coming from when you say you're considering forcing your kids to work in a crappy job, I can't accept that the "forcing" bit is ever a good move for a parent. Newton's law about actions and opposite reactions applies to parents and their kids just as much as it does to pool balls whacking together.
Having said that, I have been thinking recently that I just might engage in a little devious parental persuasion when our daughter is sixteen in a few years, and nudge her towards getting a part-time job at our local McDonald's. It's not as awful as many jobs, but I think it would be good for her to learn what working in a little team of adults is like, and she'd definitely learn how to cope with obnoxious and idiotic members of the public.
The constant school changing is really bad. I was quite popular with the rural kids and then didnt fit in as well with the rich kids. Hated the change. I call them rich they werent like that rich but they all had huge houses and sports cars and boats and land on the lake. So they probably made 250k+ atleast back then that was alot. Its still alot.
And yeah you're probably right about the forcing part. Im learning as I go but I think about this stuff alot. I just want the kids to grow up and be happy and successful. McDonalds is a great first job its physical and fast paced and its abit lower status which is also good to let young people work their way up over time. I dont remember any of the "rich kids" working that kind of job. They always had nice cars and never worked until after college. It was a totally different mindset for them.
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First, I think it's really messed up that you kept getting bounced from school to school. I'm very cynical about the value of school (not education per se, but rather the way schools operate), but the social aspect can play an important role in how kids develop.
As for your question, I'm a parent (for what that's worth - I make no claim to be the best father ever), and while I believe that what parents say to their kids matters, I'm certain that how kids see their parents behave matters a whole lot more. If you always treat people in crappy, "lowly", minimum wage jobs with kindness or at least respect, your kids are going to notice that and it's likely they'll model their behaviour on yours. If you have some understanding of how tough life can be for people in that social position and you occasionally mention things about that, it's likely that at least some of that will sink in. If you occasionally mention how fortunate you and your family are compared to others who've had life shit on them, and admit that you recognise that what success you've had is, to some degree, the result of the luck of the draw as well as the effort you've put into your education and career, then that might sink in too.
And I think it could be useful for you to talk to them about what you have here.
While I can see where you're coming from when you say you're considering forcing your kids to work in a crappy job, I can't accept that the "forcing" bit is ever a good move for a parent. Newton's law about actions and opposite reactions applies to parents and their kids just as much as it does to pool balls whacking together.
Having said that, I have been thinking recently that I just might engage in a little devious parental persuasion when our daughter is sixteen in a few years, and nudge her towards getting a part-time job at our local McDonald's. It's not as awful as many jobs, but I think it would be good for her to learn what working in a little team of adults is like, and she'd definitely learn how to cope with obnoxious and idiotic members of the public.
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The constant school changing is really bad. I was quite popular with the rural kids and then didnt fit in as well with the rich kids. Hated the change. I call them rich they werent like that rich but they all had huge houses and sports cars and boats and land on the lake. So they probably made 250k+ atleast back then that was alot. Its still alot.
And yeah you're probably right about the forcing part. Im learning as I go but I think about this stuff alot. I just want the kids to grow up and be happy and successful. McDonalds is a great first job its physical and fast paced and its abit lower status which is also good to let young people work their way up over time. I dont remember any of the "rich kids" working that kind of job. They always had nice cars and never worked until after college. It was a totally different mindset for them.