I did make double sure but I did not remind her that she wanted me to promise her earlier. So we were cuddling and she asked what I wanted to do and I said I wanted to fuck and she said yes. Then I said "ready?" Right before I stuck er in and she nodded so I went right ahead.
She didn't seem nervous or anything during sex or afterwards. Like nothing seemed different about her behavior than I would have expected. So to me, and I could totally be wrong, she seemed to have forgotten she ever asked me that.
But yeah, as I have said elsewhere on this post, I didn't do the BEST thing I could have done.
Now my question is, based on your response, what do you think you would do if something similar happened to you?
Thanks. Ok cool, that doesn't seem too bad then I suppose. And I guess she's the one who ultimately has to take the responsibility for her actions.
Well I tend to get extremely guilty and paranoid and overly critical of myself over the smallest things, so I couldn't have sex with her after she told me that. I'd be imagining the absolute worst, that she'd be completely distraught over it and would hate me, even though that would be completely paranoid to think that. It sounds like she didn't really care afterward, or if she did then only a little.
I probably would've just broken it off with her soon after she asked me to promise her that. I'd only be torturing myself hanging out with her and kissing with her and stuff if I knew sex was completely off the table.
Yeah I was half-considering a dump when she said that too but she was just too attractive for me to do that. Literally so fucking hot.
I feel bad blaming her though. And the more I discuss this with people the more bad I'm feeling about what I did. It's like I didn't break any rules but still was a duck to somebody. I highly doubt this will happen to me again though.
I know what it is like man all your mind getting in your own way. I felt that way so much growing up doing shit my parents would despise me for doing.
Well the fact that this is on your conscience and that you wouldn't do it again means that you're an alright guy. You sound like a decent guy to me, everyone makes mistakes. It's not like you're not one of those assholes who'd be laughing about it. So try not to beat yourself up about it.
I could see myself doing it again though. I hope this never happens to me because I don't think I'd have the willpower to promise to never fuck a hot girl that I knee already liked me.
I'm not an "alright guy" by just people's standards and its something I have to live with. I'd rather deal with that than have to hide all the controversial aspects about me to seem more like an acceptable person.
Ok, well honestly then it is your actions that matter. It doesn't matter how guilty you feel about it, if you'd do it again then you're just as bad as someone who wouldn't give a fuck about doing it again tbh. I mean, what'd be the difference to everyone else? The result is the same. So yeah, I hate to get all antagonistic but there's no excuse if you'd do it again, you'd just be an asshole.
I don't know what controversial aspects you're talking about but I don't think they're something you have to live with. You can try to change and improve yourself. People change all the time, it's not always a bad thing. It doesn't always mean that you're not being true to yourself or whatever. Otherwise you could use that argument for serial killers and rapists, that they'd be changing who they are as a person if they stopped doing what they do. We are who we choose to be.
Besides you don't have to change your opinions or the way you think, just what you do. As long as you don't do anything wrong then you're fine. You can think all kinds of fucked up stuff as long as you didn't act upon them. Again, what'd be the difference to everyone else? It's our actions that define us.
Well right now I wanna say that of course I'd never do it again but I know myself better than that. I would think a lot differently in the moment.
Well in terms of contaveraial aspects, it's all the stuff people give me shit for. So for one, having a lot of casual sex, for two, taking steirods, and for three, a lot of views on social issues, and for four, views on religion. This pretty much sums up the reasons why people who think I'm bad, think I'm bad.
Views on something are separate than malicious behaviors. Nothing I do or think is a direct harm to anybody else.
I just don't like pretending to agree with people to avoid a squabble.
Reverse consent iin? Did I do wrong to fuck her?
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I agree mate great comment.
I did make double sure but I did not remind her that she wanted me to promise her earlier. So we were cuddling and she asked what I wanted to do and I said I wanted to fuck and she said yes. Then I said "ready?" Right before I stuck er in and she nodded so I went right ahead.
She didn't seem nervous or anything during sex or afterwards. Like nothing seemed different about her behavior than I would have expected. So to me, and I could totally be wrong, she seemed to have forgotten she ever asked me that.
But yeah, as I have said elsewhere on this post, I didn't do the BEST thing I could have done.
Now my question is, based on your response, what do you think you would do if something similar happened to you?
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Thanks. Ok cool, that doesn't seem too bad then I suppose. And I guess she's the one who ultimately has to take the responsibility for her actions.
Well I tend to get extremely guilty and paranoid and overly critical of myself over the smallest things, so I couldn't have sex with her after she told me that. I'd be imagining the absolute worst, that she'd be completely distraught over it and would hate me, even though that would be completely paranoid to think that. It sounds like she didn't really care afterward, or if she did then only a little.
I probably would've just broken it off with her soon after she asked me to promise her that. I'd only be torturing myself hanging out with her and kissing with her and stuff if I knew sex was completely off the table.
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Yeah I was half-considering a dump when she said that too but she was just too attractive for me to do that. Literally so fucking hot.
I feel bad blaming her though. And the more I discuss this with people the more bad I'm feeling about what I did. It's like I didn't break any rules but still was a duck to somebody. I highly doubt this will happen to me again though.
I know what it is like man all your mind getting in your own way. I felt that way so much growing up doing shit my parents would despise me for doing.
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Well the fact that this is on your conscience and that you wouldn't do it again means that you're an alright guy. You sound like a decent guy to me, everyone makes mistakes. It's not like you're not one of those assholes who'd be laughing about it. So try not to beat yourself up about it.
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I could see myself doing it again though. I hope this never happens to me because I don't think I'd have the willpower to promise to never fuck a hot girl that I knee already liked me.
I'm not an "alright guy" by just people's standards and its something I have to live with. I'd rather deal with that than have to hide all the controversial aspects about me to seem more like an acceptable person.
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Ok, well honestly then it is your actions that matter. It doesn't matter how guilty you feel about it, if you'd do it again then you're just as bad as someone who wouldn't give a fuck about doing it again tbh. I mean, what'd be the difference to everyone else? The result is the same. So yeah, I hate to get all antagonistic but there's no excuse if you'd do it again, you'd just be an asshole.
I don't know what controversial aspects you're talking about but I don't think they're something you have to live with. You can try to change and improve yourself. People change all the time, it's not always a bad thing. It doesn't always mean that you're not being true to yourself or whatever. Otherwise you could use that argument for serial killers and rapists, that they'd be changing who they are as a person if they stopped doing what they do. We are who we choose to be.
Besides you don't have to change your opinions or the way you think, just what you do. As long as you don't do anything wrong then you're fine. You can think all kinds of fucked up stuff as long as you didn't act upon them. Again, what'd be the difference to everyone else? It's our actions that define us.
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Well right now I wanna say that of course I'd never do it again but I know myself better than that. I would think a lot differently in the moment.
Well in terms of contaveraial aspects, it's all the stuff people give me shit for. So for one, having a lot of casual sex, for two, taking steirods, and for three, a lot of views on social issues, and for four, views on religion. This pretty much sums up the reasons why people who think I'm bad, think I'm bad.
Views on something are separate than malicious behaviors. Nothing I do or think is a direct harm to anybody else.
I just don't like pretending to agree with people to avoid a squabble.