Relationships in college

I'm a sophomore in college and I haven't really, romantically, met anyone in college. I went on one date with a girl at the end of my freshmen year and that has been it. I've had zero "hook-ups" or make-out sessions or anything, it just hasn't happened (I'd like it to, I would like to get into a relationship with a nice girl but it just hasn't happened). Is this normal? I had one or two short, trivial relationships in high school and practically no sexual experiences. I'm just afraid I'm falling so far behind and it's really been depressing me lately, I just don't want to be alone in life. I have some good friends and family but other than that...nada. So....is it normal?....at all?

Is It Normal?
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  • A sophomore in college? That gives you an ample amount of time to start getting what you want in life from now on and still catch-up with those you perceive to be ahead in the game.

    If you are a naturally introverted person, it would be completely normal that it might take a bit longer to find like minded people who would take the time to get to know you and share the kinds of interests you have.

    My suggestion is that you take some time to find out what student activities are being organized on the campus. If you see something that you would like to do, then go to it, and go because you are looking to have fun and meet people (not necessarily to find a girlfriend). Then get into conversations and small-talk, be friendly, don't take things too seriously. Things should take off from there and hopefully you'll be feeling better about things and maybe even find someone you're crazy about, who's just as into you. If by the end of the next semester you are still feeling down, then you might want to see a specialist; perhaps there are other things going on in your life that are contributing to things being the way they are now.

    best of luck to you!

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  • Yeah it's normal, dude stay away from college chicks.

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  • That sounds fine to me.
    Don't feel like you're "falling behind." Everyone is different. You don't have to be like anyone else, just yourself.
    I'm also a sophomore in college... and I have never met a guy there. There are about 3 very beautiful guys I've seen, but I'm too shy to talk to them.
    The only friends I've actually made were gay guys... I guess because they're easy to talk to!
    I say find someone who you seem to like, and make a move! Like, "let's go to the movies." Or if you're in the same class, "let's study for a test."

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  • you're not alone!!

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  • Listen to Bazwell.

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  • Dude! You're a sophomore in college, and your worried about keeping up and not wanting to grow older alone. Well before you hit the nursing home, let me say that, for some reason, so many guys think they've got to have job/career/wife/kids/and some strange looking SUV. Yet, the ideal is becoming less ideal. Get me? Stories such as yours flood these pages. I'm sick of "virgins" claiming they are virgins because they haven't met the right one. Maybe the case with some who are devoted to such ideals, but most of the time i think the ployv"I haven't met the right guy/girl is an underhanded way of saying, I just haven't gotten laid for some reason. I don't know why. Lay easy with this one, and follow your own schedule. It's okay to not have been laid yet. Hell, it took me forever. Once I lost it, I aNted to make sure I got it anytime I wanted.

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  • you're a loser

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