However, it feels you're not actually looking deep within yourself and thinking seriously about what you want in a partner or from youself. Loneliness is cured simply by hanging out with friends/family (or making new friends) and just doing your own thing to occupy your time. That means getting into new hobbies and just seeing how far you can push yourself with anything you find interesting (learning the guitar, hiking, whatever).
In my opinion, you sound like your using a relationship to fill a void instead of conquering your feelings head on and going through the motions of coming to terms with losing your ex. On top of that, it sounds like you're picking out the same old women with the same old traits, instead of thinking of what characteristics would be beneficial in a loving partner and searching for them.
In the end, you're normal and behaving typically. You're a young man making young man mistakes, and probably have bad luck with women due to picking woman out mostly for their appearances rather than anything else (most super attractive girls are crazy, not all though. But you got to look deeper and not think with your dick so often).
My bad. So use to most guys only caring about looks more than anything.
Since that's not the case for you, then you're probably picking girls with the same old same old without realizing it. Read up on relationship red flags, most will be advice tailored for women, but ignore that since women can show the same signs. Also, go to a site called Badassyoungmen.com; it's one of the best male advice sites I found so far that doesn't have silly bullshit and help men become healthier not only in the relationship, but with themselves, well minus their marketing ploys.
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You're very normal.
However, it feels you're not actually looking deep within yourself and thinking seriously about what you want in a partner or from youself. Loneliness is cured simply by hanging out with friends/family (or making new friends) and just doing your own thing to occupy your time. That means getting into new hobbies and just seeing how far you can push yourself with anything you find interesting (learning the guitar, hiking, whatever).
In my opinion, you sound like your using a relationship to fill a void instead of conquering your feelings head on and going through the motions of coming to terms with losing your ex. On top of that, it sounds like you're picking out the same old women with the same old traits, instead of thinking of what characteristics would be beneficial in a loving partner and searching for them.
In the end, you're normal and behaving typically. You're a young man making young man mistakes, and probably have bad luck with women due to picking woman out mostly for their appearances rather than anything else (most super attractive girls are crazy, not all though. But you got to look deeper and not think with your dick so often).
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Most of what you've said I agree with or at least see your point but your last paragraph is way off the mark.
Out of the 6, the 5 plus my ex 1 was hot 3 were average and 2 were below average. I was not choosing based on looks.
One of my friends actually told me to raise my standards.
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My bad. So use to most guys only caring about looks more than anything.
Since that's not the case for you, then you're probably picking girls with the same old same old without realizing it. Read up on relationship red flags, most will be advice tailored for women, but ignore that since women can show the same signs. Also, go to a site called Badassyoungmen.com; it's one of the best male advice sites I found so far that doesn't have silly bullshit and help men become healthier not only in the relationship, but with themselves, well minus their marketing ploys.