There are several issues that should be addressed based on this post:
1) It's concerning that he was able to know you were lying by talking to your friends.
Is it possible that you are too open with details to your friends?
2) Beyond that, some people are really strict with honesty, however, everybody lies. Every single person lies, including your beloved. Because of his accusations, I would wager this is more about jealousy than honesty.
3) The fact is, when you are dating someone, there is nothing wrong with speaking to other guys, people are people, who you speak to should have nothing to do with their sex.
The truth you were hiding wasn't that you cheated on him, it was that you are more experienced than he is. He has no reason to be worried about you talking to other guys.
4) That said, think about your limitations. You shouldn't have to resort to begging, pleading, crying, and demeaning yourself to earn forgiveness. I suggest you speak with him maturely, apologize for lying (which I am sure you have), explain that the lie was created because of fear. Because you got the reaction you feared it means your urge to lie wasn't absurd. In reality you did the right thing, because if you were honest in the beginning, you would have gotten the same jealousy.
5) You were damned if you do, damned if you didn't. You need to decide if he is worth all this drama. Your partner should make you feel good about being with him and you should feel lucky to be the other one's partner. If he has unrealistic expectations of complete honesty, or he is constantly worried for your faithfulness, then he isn't feeling lucky to be with you, and in that situation, you can do better.
It is not unrealistic to want to be in a relationship with somebody who is excited to be with you despite your flaws.
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There are several issues that should be addressed based on this post:
1) It's concerning that he was able to know you were lying by talking to your friends.
Is it possible that you are too open with details to your friends?
2) Beyond that, some people are really strict with honesty, however, everybody lies. Every single person lies, including your beloved. Because of his accusations, I would wager this is more about jealousy than honesty.
3) The fact is, when you are dating someone, there is nothing wrong with speaking to other guys, people are people, who you speak to should have nothing to do with their sex.
The truth you were hiding wasn't that you cheated on him, it was that you are more experienced than he is. He has no reason to be worried about you talking to other guys.
4) That said, think about your limitations. You shouldn't have to resort to begging, pleading, crying, and demeaning yourself to earn forgiveness. I suggest you speak with him maturely, apologize for lying (which I am sure you have), explain that the lie was created because of fear. Because you got the reaction you feared it means your urge to lie wasn't absurd. In reality you did the right thing, because if you were honest in the beginning, you would have gotten the same jealousy.
5) You were damned if you do, damned if you didn't. You need to decide if he is worth all this drama. Your partner should make you feel good about being with him and you should feel lucky to be the other one's partner. If he has unrealistic expectations of complete honesty, or he is constantly worried for your faithfulness, then he isn't feeling lucky to be with you, and in that situation, you can do better.
It is not unrealistic to want to be in a relationship with somebody who is excited to be with you despite your flaws.