It's normal for you to take issue with this matter. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Intimacy should be a two way street. There's nothing wrong with you taking a break from going down on her until she starts returning the favor.
I feel I should definitely tell her how I feel I'm just not sure how, also tbh I'm not big on the idea of withdrawing sex as a type of blackmail, seems kind if manipulative to me which isn't how I want to be
I wouldn't see it as blackmail. I have always had a policy of expecting and even demanding equality with regard to intimacy. I never do anything for anyone sexually that he isn't will to return nor do I accept sexual favors that I do not wish to return. I basically find unreciprocated sex to be a real turn off and a deal breaker in my life.
I think it's important that you love and respect yourself first and foremost, my brother.
I guess for me it wouldn't be blackmail, because if someone expects to get from me without giving to me I'm completely turned off by that person's lack of love and respect for me.
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It's normal for you to take issue with this matter. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Intimacy should be a two way street. There's nothing wrong with you taking a break from going down on her until she starts returning the favor.
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I feel I should definitely tell her how I feel I'm just not sure how, also tbh I'm not big on the idea of withdrawing sex as a type of blackmail, seems kind if manipulative to me which isn't how I want to be
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I wouldn't see it as blackmail. I have always had a policy of expecting and even demanding equality with regard to intimacy. I never do anything for anyone sexually that he isn't will to return nor do I accept sexual favors that I do not wish to return. I basically find unreciprocated sex to be a real turn off and a deal breaker in my life.
I think it's important that you love and respect yourself first and foremost, my brother.
I guess for me it wouldn't be blackmail, because if someone expects to get from me without giving to me I'm completely turned off by that person's lack of love and respect for me.