Inability to problem solve.
A sociopath wouldn't care about his feelings, but they could also lie about that. However they wouldn't have as much motive to lie when asking for anonymous advice. It's possible an intellectually challenged sociopath might though.
I can actually think of a few reasons someone might do this. It's also possible OP gives into whatever people want without thinking about what she wants but has grown since then and realized why that was a bad idea and wants out.
Either way psychoanalyzing OP is not going to be helpful and we should focus on giving advice instead of trying to diagnose someone we don't even know.
Can you explain exactly what was going through your mind when you accepted a marriage proposal on the 4th date from a guy you didn't have feelings for?
I find it really hard to understand how you could have thought that was a good idea, rather than a totally disastrous decision.
"I will probably break up with him eventually because I don't love him."
"It's only our fourth date"
"A sham marriage is only going to hurt both of us."
"I would be deceiving not only him, but friends and family who think I've found 'the one'."
"My wedding vows would be meaningless."
"I better just be honest, let him down gently now rather than shatter his heart 3 years down the line."
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It's just very odd behaviour from someone, to be so concerned about hurting another person's feelings that you'd marry them to avoid the awkward situation :/ After the divorce, I think you should be careful about how you approach future relationships.
Then why did you live a lie and waste over three years of this poor guy's life?
Have you ever seen a mental heath professional before? I'm not trying to be mean, but you do sound like a narcissistic sociopath. It's like you have no conscious.
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I bet he makes good money and she's just just been using him. Sociopath is a good call on this one.
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I don't think a sociopath would care about hurting his feelings. Sounds more like an intellectual problem.
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Hmm... I still stand by my supposition, but what kinda intellectual problem?
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Inability to problem solve.
A sociopath wouldn't care about his feelings, but they could also lie about that. However they wouldn't have as much motive to lie when asking for anonymous advice. It's possible an intellectually challenged sociopath might though.
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I can actually think of a few reasons someone might do this. It's also possible OP gives into whatever people want without thinking about what she wants but has grown since then and realized why that was a bad idea and wants out.
Either way psychoanalyzing OP is not going to be helpful and we should focus on giving advice instead of trying to diagnose someone we don't even know.
I know, right? Thank Goodness there are no children involved!
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I feel the same
I don't use people
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Can you explain exactly what was going through your mind when you accepted a marriage proposal on the 4th date from a guy you didn't have feelings for?
I find it really hard to understand how you could have thought that was a good idea, rather than a totally disastrous decision.
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"I don't want to hurt his feelings."
"He's loved me for so long."
"I want to make him happy."
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But you didn't think...
"I would be lying to him"
"I will probably break up with him eventually because I don't love him."
"It's only our fourth date"
"A sham marriage is only going to hurt both of us."
"I would be deceiving not only him, but friends and family who think I've found 'the one'."
"My wedding vows would be meaningless."
"I better just be honest, let him down gently now rather than shatter his heart 3 years down the line."
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It's just very odd behaviour from someone, to be so concerned about hurting another person's feelings that you'd marry them to avoid the awkward situation :/ After the divorce, I think you should be careful about how you approach future relationships.
Then why did you live a lie and waste over three years of this poor guy's life?
Have you ever seen a mental heath professional before? I'm not trying to be mean, but you do sound like a narcissistic sociopath. It's like you have no conscious.
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Well, then there's no time like present to take care of business and go see a mental health professional. What you've done isn't normal.