Post first date situation

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There's this guy I met on-line, I've been talking to him for months and yesterday I asked him out of the blue to hang out. We hung out and everything was great, I felt we had a connection because by the end of the date we were holding hands. I offered to go dutch and he agreed, this has never happened to me before, usually guys insist on paying but ok cool it doesn't matter but a tiny part of me is wondering he didn't insist on paying.

He asked to take a selfie with me and talked about seeing me again next Saturday. He looked deep into my eyes and was very sweet. He walked me home and we didn't want to say goodbye so we kept circling around my block and then he gave me a kiss which later turned into a french kiss and he brushed his hand on my bum and grabbed my boob a bit so I pushed his hand away.. He hugged me tighter and made sure I noticed he had a boner. He wasn't trying to sleep over because he knows I live in a dorm. We kissed some more and he went home.

He texted me the photos of us and sent a cold "goodnight" and I said "goodnight" but he hasn't texted me the whole of today. I know I could always text him but

1) I asked him to hangout
2) He never offered to pay for dinner but be did pay for coffee
3) He seemed cold over text after the date

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    5 years ago

    It hasn't even been a full day yet, that's normal, he's probably just been busy. Plus it's 2018, guys don't have to pay for everything, especially if you were the one who asked him out. He'll probably offer to pay for the next one, if not then he is probably just stingy though.

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    • CheyChey
      5 years ago

      So he did get in touch and he asked to see me on Saturday. Then he asked me to pay for dinner if he pays for the movie tickets. This guy is 32 years old and has a full time job. I'm a student and work part time and he knows my financial situation. Is this guy doing this because he doesn't see me as dating material and he just wants to smash? I know it's 2018 and men don't have to pay for everything but he's not even being chivalrous with me!!

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      • ARandomRaccoon
        5 years ago

        Guys go dutch on these things, especially with younger girls, because they don't want to be taken for a ride. He could be worried that because you essentially rejected him at the end of the first date, you're just interested in an older guy who will show you a good time without having to reciprocate. Then again, he could also just be a guy looking for some fun without any real investment.

        Of course, rather than just worrying about all of these things, you should probably just have "the talk" and find out what he wants. That's what adults do. If that scares him off, that should make it clear that he wasn't interested in anything real.

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  • farkelu
    5 years ago

    He has the hots for you - don't you get that? If you have the hots for him too, then you gotta show it! You could have let him touch your boobs or even put his hand on one. And a stroke of his cock thru the pants would have probably made him shot his load right thee in the car! What's wrong with that?

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    • CheyChey
      5 years ago

      I do have the hots for him but I'm trying to take things slow, I let him french kiss me and kissed him back passionately. I'm not a prude but I have had recent dating experiences were everything moved too fast only for the guy to practically ghost me. So now I just want something that will progress more slower since I now want a relationship and not just a casual setup.

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  • HypnoDom
    5 years ago

    It sounds like you like this guy, but think he lost interest in you because he wanted sex and you weren't giving it. Is that right?

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    • CheyChey
      5 years ago

      Hmmm, we had a very simple dinner, walk in the park and coffee date. He knows I live in a dorm with stricty no visitors allowed. So there is no way he could have thought sex was even position when he walked me home... But then again,the way hugged me and all that hand action and making me feel he had a boner by hugging me real tight was unnecessary but I guess he was just communicating his intentions. I'll leave him alone.

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      • McBean
        5 years ago

        Way way way too many assumptions here dear. His brain is sorting out the whole evening. That boner was involuntary and means you passed the test. Some guys leave the final decision to their better judgement. You may have met a guy with exceptional common sense. Send him a text next Saturday.

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  • e51pegasi
    5 years ago

    Do you want to see him again?

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    • CheyChey
      5 years ago

      Yes I do. He even said he wants to see me next Saturday but since the Post date goodnight he's been quiet so I can only assume, he's not interested.

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      • redrainbow22
        5 years ago

        What if he's just busy?

        Dont panic and think of these crazy ideas.

        Be patient and give it time.

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