Your resentment is probably normal, yet unhealthy. I%%u2019m sure if you somehow overcame all the negative feelings you feel towards your family, your life would be happier and you would become more content with your situation. I know it can be difficult, but try to look at what you have rather than what you don%%u2019t have. The past is the past, and there%%u2019s no possible way you can change any of that. In the present, the only thing you can do is to look deeply within yourself to find those things about you and your life that you value, and embrace those things. They will make your life worthwhile, and your current situation won%%u2019t seem so burdensome.
You say that you are supporting the whole family? Why isn%%u2019t your mother taking care of her responsibilities? She doesn%%u2019t work? If this is the case, then perhaps you are enabling her, in a sense, to allow you (and other people) to take care of her family and the responsibilities that come with it. I know it may be intimidating to confront your mother with this, but I think it must be done to give you a bit of a break. Also, keep in mind that this will only be temporary. Eventually your half-sisters (and hopefully your mother) will be self-sufficient, and you%%u2019ll be able to continue on with your life. It%%u2019s all just a matter of time.
Thank you, It is nice to feel like people want to help!
I'm quite scared about how my little sisters are going to end up, ella who is 7 already said to me
"I know mummy loves me, but i dont feel like it sometimes"
That kinda breaks my heart, which makes me feel worse about wanting out of this scenario. Thanks for the advice, i know it makes sense.
I completely understand. And I do think your little sisters need you, but I didn't realize they were so young. Ten years (or so) is an awfully long time to put your life on hold if your mother is unwilling to step up and be a mother. Then you have to wonder if she will end up in another toxic relationship again, which she seems to have an inclination to do. You are an extraordinary person for putting your sisters' wellbeing above your own, but it's bound to wear you down eventually. Perhaps Jan is right and you should seek some refuge, but you need to do it more strategically than simply running off. You need to ensure that your sisters are well looked after in your absense. You need to find some way to get your mother to step up and be a mother to these children she brought into this world. And I suppose their father doesn't want anything to do with them, or they want nothing to do with their father? That's probably best, as you said he was an abusive person. But is he supporting them in any way?
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Your resentment is probably normal, yet unhealthy. I%%u2019m sure if you somehow overcame all the negative feelings you feel towards your family, your life would be happier and you would become more content with your situation. I know it can be difficult, but try to look at what you have rather than what you don%%u2019t have. The past is the past, and there%%u2019s no possible way you can change any of that. In the present, the only thing you can do is to look deeply within yourself to find those things about you and your life that you value, and embrace those things. They will make your life worthwhile, and your current situation won%%u2019t seem so burdensome.
You say that you are supporting the whole family? Why isn%%u2019t your mother taking care of her responsibilities? She doesn%%u2019t work? If this is the case, then perhaps you are enabling her, in a sense, to allow you (and other people) to take care of her family and the responsibilities that come with it. I know it may be intimidating to confront your mother with this, but I think it must be done to give you a bit of a break. Also, keep in mind that this will only be temporary. Eventually your half-sisters (and hopefully your mother) will be self-sufficient, and you%%u2019ll be able to continue on with your life. It%%u2019s all just a matter of time.
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Thank you, It is nice to feel like people want to help!
I'm quite scared about how my little sisters are going to end up, ella who is 7 already said to me
"I know mummy loves me, but i dont feel like it sometimes"
That kinda breaks my heart, which makes me feel worse about wanting out of this scenario. Thanks for the advice, i know it makes sense.
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I completely understand. And I do think your little sisters need you, but I didn't realize they were so young. Ten years (or so) is an awfully long time to put your life on hold if your mother is unwilling to step up and be a mother. Then you have to wonder if she will end up in another toxic relationship again, which she seems to have an inclination to do. You are an extraordinary person for putting your sisters' wellbeing above your own, but it's bound to wear you down eventually. Perhaps Jan is right and you should seek some refuge, but you need to do it more strategically than simply running off. You need to ensure that your sisters are well looked after in your absense. You need to find some way to get your mother to step up and be a mother to these children she brought into this world. And I suppose their father doesn't want anything to do with them, or they want nothing to do with their father? That's probably best, as you said he was an abusive person. But is he supporting them in any way?
I'm impressed :-)