Playing hard to get or not interested?

I met a girl online and we got talking and found we had loads in common and got on really well. We'd email each other every 1-2 days, sometimes she'd even email me twice in one day, really early in the morning or late at night, she seemed really keen. After this had been going on for a while we decided to meet up and we had a really long date one evening, it was a bit crazy at times but she seemed to enjoy it.

Ever since her interest seems to have dropped right off. If I email her, it takes her a few days to email back. If I send her a text, she'll text back a day later. She says she's been busy the past couple of weeks since the date so I decided to call her to try and arrange to do something else. She sounded quite positive on the phone (apart from seeming to contradict herself about why she wasn't available on a day she said she was) and said she had to go away for work for a few days but would let me know the day after when she was free next (I need a bit of advance notice as we don't live in the same city). A day later and I've heard nothing.

My question is this - is this normal behaviour for a girl, playing hard to get, wanting to be chased etc? If she really wasn't interested she could just tell me (via email or text even, I'd be disappointed but I'd understand), the only other explanation I can think of is maybe she's seeing other people and keeping me as a back up option? Thoughts please, guys and girls.

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  • cleverusername

    I met a girl online.....sometimes she'd even email me twice in one day,...

    I quit reading. Grow balls and do it in real life.

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  • coolio75650932

    wait wait this post is to long i would just write " met this girl online we met up and we had fun but she is ignoring me cuz im constantly e-mailing and texting her 24-7" lol YOU TROLLING US YOU TROLL IMA HACK SHAPES NOW ●◆■▲▼☆★♀♂

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  • asianninja

    This is basically what i kinda did. I dated this one dude right? And he was like sooooo amazinggg!!! But then one dayyy, i met this one guy...and just idk..i lost feelings for my him. But i dint wanna break his heart...so i justtt you kno slowlyyy unattatched myself to him.

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  • She's not interested. When you're talking with someone over the internet be EXACTLY as you are 'cuz in life you gotta be yourself dude, you might not have 10,000 girls but love will find you and well maybe you werent really made for each other. But if you werent yourself, that may have led her to think you were something you're not and maybe she expected the dude she met on the internet at the date.

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  • andrian007

    I'm afrad I have to agree with the prevous poster. These relationships are always exciting in the beginning when you're finding out more about each other. But by the looks of it, after that date, she just didn't see it going furter than that.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm sure you're a very nice person. But these things happen. Think of it like a job application, it's your application that's being turned down, not your person. I hate to break the bad news, my friend, but I recommend you just move on to someone else.

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  • Jen118584

    It sounds like she just really isn't interested and doesn't have the guts to tell you. Maybe she didn't feel that you "clicked" as well in person as you did through emails. Even if she was playing games (which I suppose she in, in a way, by not being honest with you) you don't really want to bother with a girl like that anyways, do you? I'd quit wasting your time and effort if I were you and try again with someone else. I met my boyfriend online too and we're extremely happy, so best of luck to you :)

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