People respect me more if i'm in a relationship, that's what i think?

I recently set my status on Facebook as "Its complicated"
simply because I felt like it and my status has always said single. I also wanted to deter random weirdos hitting me up.
Anyway I just feel that my friends respect me me/act differently.

For example, I have made this new friend over the past 8 months or so and I actually had a sift spot for her because I know she has problems.
I'd do nice things like buy her a birthday gift (which I don't usually do for people), compliment her every so often about skills or appearance wise.
Always help her out with her pets or just let her know I'm simply there for her.
I'd always wondered if she even appreciated anything. She was always polite but I felt she was closed off online especially with the way she'd talk. Doesn't use emojis like most girls do.
Any way I set my relationship status as its complicated probably about 2 weeks ago now.
Yesterday my friend wanted to buy some stuff off me for her pets. She left a note saying this is on me with a kinky face emojis, (and attached a toy for my dog).
I thought wow she's not one to be like this and I texted and thanked her. She explained how she likes being generous and how I've been good to her and is showing her appreciation.

I don't know if it's weird to think but I just don't think she would have done this is my relationship Saud single I think she may think it's weird to do.

I'm 24f

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Comments ( 36 )
  • e51pegasi

    So, you are under the impression that because you changed an option on a social networking site, people's perception & opinion of you has changed?

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    • yeah but I don't know if it's all in my head but I really believe this

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      • e51pegasi

        I have a feeling that it may just be people's curiosity as to why your status is now 'it's complicated' rather than some new found respect for yourself.

        When someone says its complicated when asked abot their relationship status it can have several connotations, some salacious & very gossipworthy.

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        • I think you've missed the point of my post.
          Has nothing to do with people and/or friends trying to ask about my relationship status.

          I think salacious is the wrong word to use in this context.

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      • nikkiclaire

        Why are you friends with strangers on facebook. Obviously they have no idea who you are if they check your rs status.

        Get off facebook. It's a cesspool of drunken losers and perverts.

        I'll grant you that this place isn't any better but at least it's interesting and its a lot safer.

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        • I'm not friends with strangers on fb

          Most the time I get fuking annoying curry munchers try and add me and/or even pm me trying to get to "know" me.

          I changed my status to its complicated rather than in a relationship because I don't like lying and I thought it's complicated sounds better in that sense.

          What are u on about?

          Literally millions of people still use Facebook and mostly for the purpose of posting, commenting, liking, adding pics of their life, all of that crap!

          It's not a dating site like Tinder and Grinder so tbh I'm not sure why u slam it so hard

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  • Tealights

    People want what they think they can't have.

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    • How does this relate to my post?

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      • Tealights

        Think about it. "It's complicated," indicates to MANY that you're involved with someone but having a rough time with it, which means you're unavailable or your attention is shared. Even though you're single, everyone doesn't know that and since it's "complicated," they will be less likely to ask, but just assume.

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        • How does this relate to my question and friend though

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          • Tealights

            Ugh... she probably likes you and trying to make you feel better.

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  • LionsMane

    Society has this empty belief that you must be in a relationship to be taken seriously. To most, they convince themselves it's a sign of wealth and health, and even somehow possessing better morals. It's unfortunately not true at all.

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    • RoseIsabella

      People shouldn't define themselves or each other by their relationship status, but they do all the damn time.

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      • pendletonGibbs

        It's mostly women who do this.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Oh yes, I'm well aware of this which is why I've found myself preferring platonic male friends to "girlfriends". Sometimes it's better to just not even to try to have friends. I can have guy friends who basically just talk about anything, but don't make me feel like I am less than, because I'm not in relationship. Good guy friends don't waste a lot of time talking bullshit. Bad guy friends try to hit on me, and so I have to dismiss them.

          The best friends I've ever had were gay males in college! A lot of people can think I'm conservative all they want, but you couldn't pay me to be homophobic against gay men, because I've never had better friends than the ones I did in those college days in the 1990s!

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    • So I'm not the only one whom thinks like this ?

      It must have been ingrained subconsciously

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      • LionsMane

        I mean there is logic in different ways. People often do dumb things to fit in. Think about the crap people do in fraternities or sororities to initiate themselves. Also, we often hurt emotionally as people and can't always express that hurt. Something like physically harming yourself can feel like you are letting some of that emotional anguish out. That's not to say there's always some deep psychological reasoning behind it. Just sayin'

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      • e51pegasi

        Got you now.

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        • what

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          • LionsMane

            sorry I made this reply on the wrong post

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  • pendletonGibbs

    First world millenial problems... emojis on facebook and caring about what fake friends think of you.

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    • She ain't fake

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  • geek_god_101

    It is sad but true. People are treated better in a relationship versus people who are single. The world's perception follows single=worthless and unlovable, married=worthy of attention.

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  • Ummitsme

    People often like relationship status changes. Especially if you're a girl, it doesn't mean anything. Women like to support eachother and/or appear that they support you. Men are hoping they have a shot at having sex with you. It's not complicated.

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    • That's preposterous

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  • Damn, that’s complicated.

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    • RoseIsabella

      So is being regular, I knew I was gonna pay when I ate all that turkey and pasta without a salad or at least a side of spinach.

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      • pendletonGibbs

        White bread and cheese will kill me one day.

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        • RoseIsabella

          ... but it's so yummy.

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      • Eat your greens, they’re good for you.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Pooping is good for you.

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