Why are you so desperate to be with someone who treats you like crap? He is a piece of human garbage! He always makes you jealous, convinced you that he needs an open relationship in order to be with you, and then you accept it when it clearly isn't what you want. He constantly tells you to leave his apartment, and then kicks you out without letting you get your stuff. He does drugs most likely, and is probably an alcoholic. This guy goes out clubbing with his loser friends, one of whom is old enough to be your dad, but somehow manages to be completely immature. The guy mooches off of his parents, treats you like a free maid, and free whore. Most normal women would find this behavior unacceptable, because it is unacceptable! The guy is a piece of shit!
What you need to do is continue to go to therapy, and checkout Codependents Anonymous, or Al Anon.
http://coda.org/
https://al-anon.org/
I appreciate you posting here, and sharing your story, but this guy is nothing, but bad news. You need to disconnect from him, and move on with your life.
You need to just let go of this toxic relationship. If you ever want to be happy you need to detach from this selfish, immature, narcissistic abuser.
you’re right. the open relationship thing was kinda complicated and it’s not what he wanted. anyways, it’s just hard. i just want to be with him! i still love him and what he did to me didn’t even like hurt or bother me honestly. i went to see him today and he did say, “you need to get better” “we need to work on each other” and “you sent me to jail” to which i replied, “you sent yourself to jail” and he got mad and wanted me to leave and i did. then a couple hours later i get a message on facebook saying “look babe i love you, but you just need to be patient” ... because i wanted to like hookup with him and he said having sex wasn’t a good idea”
Girl, you need to stay away from, because he's really bad for you!
He said,“we need to work on each other”, that's gotta be the most codependent thing I've ever heard! Can't nobody work on you, and your problems, but you, girl. Even God himself can't fix you if you don't actually want to get better, honey. You have to want to get better, and work towards improving yourself. You need to let go of this guy, so you can heal your life. The only thing he's right about is that ya'll don't need to be sleeping with each other. You need to detox from this relationship, girl.
well what he meant was that we both need to go to therapy, which is good and i’m glad he’s going bc i think it can help him a lot. i’m going starting monday. don’t you think people can change? what if he goes to therapy and becomes better
Sure, people can change, but this guy has a proven track record of being a massive douchebag. I don't think you should put your eggs in this here basket. I think you need to take a break from this guy.
What makes this guy who treats you so badly worth all this trouble? What about what this relationship is doing to your self-esteem, and self-respect?
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Why are you so desperate to be with someone who treats you like crap? He is a piece of human garbage! He always makes you jealous, convinced you that he needs an open relationship in order to be with you, and then you accept it when it clearly isn't what you want. He constantly tells you to leave his apartment, and then kicks you out without letting you get your stuff. He does drugs most likely, and is probably an alcoholic. This guy goes out clubbing with his loser friends, one of whom is old enough to be your dad, but somehow manages to be completely immature. The guy mooches off of his parents, treats you like a free maid, and free whore. Most normal women would find this behavior unacceptable, because it is unacceptable! The guy is a piece of shit!
What you need to do is continue to go to therapy, and checkout Codependents Anonymous, or Al Anon.
http://coda.org/
https://al-anon.org/
I appreciate you posting here, and sharing your story, but this guy is nothing, but bad news. You need to disconnect from him, and move on with your life.
You need to just let go of this toxic relationship. If you ever want to be happy you need to detach from this selfish, immature, narcissistic abuser.
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you’re right. the open relationship thing was kinda complicated and it’s not what he wanted. anyways, it’s just hard. i just want to be with him! i still love him and what he did to me didn’t even like hurt or bother me honestly. i went to see him today and he did say, “you need to get better” “we need to work on each other” and “you sent me to jail” to which i replied, “you sent yourself to jail” and he got mad and wanted me to leave and i did. then a couple hours later i get a message on facebook saying “look babe i love you, but you just need to be patient” ... because i wanted to like hookup with him and he said having sex wasn’t a good idea”
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Girl, you need to stay away from, because he's really bad for you!
He said,“we need to work on each other”, that's gotta be the most codependent thing I've ever heard! Can't nobody work on you, and your problems, but you, girl. Even God himself can't fix you if you don't actually want to get better, honey. You have to want to get better, and work towards improving yourself. You need to let go of this guy, so you can heal your life. The only thing he's right about is that ya'll don't need to be sleeping with each other. You need to detox from this relationship, girl.
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well what he meant was that we both need to go to therapy, which is good and i’m glad he’s going bc i think it can help him a lot. i’m going starting monday. don’t you think people can change? what if he goes to therapy and becomes better
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Sure, people can change, but this guy has a proven track record of being a massive douchebag. I don't think you should put your eggs in this here basket. I think you need to take a break from this guy.
What makes this guy who treats you so badly worth all this trouble? What about what this relationship is doing to your self-esteem, and self-respect?
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he shows me love and that he cares about me. he really does. all i do is talk negative so of course you hate him...
so a break? and then see what happens?
do you think anyone else will date him