Parents and respect

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Okay, so I'm 21 years old, in college and currently living at home with mom for a while (paying rent) untill I transfer out to a bigger university. Lately I've been noticing how all my life my mom has been obessesed with everything I do being tied to my respect for her. Everything I do that she doesn't like or disagree's with she thinks I'm choosing to disrespect her. Most of the things I do have NOTHING to do with her and yet I'm disrespecting her? Yet if I don't do exactly what she says its like I'm spitting in her face. As an adult, aren't I allowed to make my own decisons without it having anything to do with her? Does anyone else's parents do this?

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  • Caps90
    13 years ago

    My Dad acts a little bit like this in a way. It seems to me like your mother just has control issues. She thinks it's her way or the high way! Just pull through it and once you're out on your own and have your own space things between you and your mom will probably get better.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    In my opinion, if you're still living with your parents then you need to abide by their rules. If you're paying enough rent to get your own place, then move out. Otherwise, suck it up and live with it. You're not an independent adult if you're still living with your parents; your parents will still see it that way regardless if you're paying them money or not. If you want to earn respect and be treated like an adult, you need to move out. Otherwise, don't bitch. Simple.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    My moms the same and i'm 34!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    There was a time in your life (longer than ten years) when you accepted your mothers opinions as the ONLY opinions. While you may be an "adult" now, you still live with your mum, which means you do not have a grown-up relationship with her. You cannot get to that next level, unless you are an "adult" living in your own home. It's normal and natural for your mother to act this way. Tolerate it until you can move out on your own.

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  • freeme
    13 years ago

    Sounds like she is trying to victimize you. My mother does that as well. I am 23 and recently moved back. I don't know about your mom, but for me, reverse psychology works on my parents. What you should do is not get angry but try to change the subject without being obvious about it. Distract them. Then bring something up to make them feel a little bit guilty. Maybe not over the top. She did bring you into this world, so she should respect you in return...and don't feel bad about it. When you are on your feet and she gets older, she will miss you when you are gone and she will need you. Hope things work out for the best.

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    • bamboorabbid
      13 years ago

      true but i hate to hear this...dont knw why..??

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  • chrissa114
    13 years ago

    Trust me, it will never end. I'm 35 now, was married and got yelled at the other day from my Mom cause she felt I dissaproved. Does your mom do that whole "guilt trip" thing to? Cause that won't end either!

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Benz pretty much sums it up.

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  • That_Guy_From_The_Party
    13 years ago

    i changed my opinion, bitch slap her.

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  • black127
    13 years ago

    Agree with Benz and my parents r much worse.

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  • That_Guy_From_The_Party
    13 years ago

    just move out and get a roommate it will cost you the same with the rent and no annoying mom around. you win.

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