Parenthood and babies.

Ok, this is something that has been troubling me for a while, but a have this whole issue with pregnancy, parents and new born babies.

I write this with a little unease because the feelings I have are pretty strong and I have never really expressed them to anyone, I really dont want to feel this way but I cant help it.

My beef is with the way people get around childbirth and babies. The whole thing doesnt just piss me off it actually repulses me, the thought of a woman carrying a child, giving birth or breast feeding literally turns my stomach, there just seems something so base and animalistic about it all that I cant help but feel repulsed.

More over I get queezy over the way people are around babies, people cooing over baby photos, doey eyed words of motherly wisdom passed from an older generation to a soon to be parent, people swooning at the miracle of parenthood, proud fathers, protective mothers, it all just makes me feel physically sick. Not only that but I find myself getting irrate, its like Im frustrated at people for being so weak minded they cant rise up above their base hormonal instincts.

Seriously, if you really want to piss me off just mention "motherly love", "nesting instinct" or e-mail me a few photos or your kids.

A woman i work with brought her baby into work the other day, I felt sick to stomach but smiled through it, and yes there was part of me that was happy for her because she was so ecstatic that she had managed to push a child out of her private parts (you know, each to their own, i might not like what she did but why cant i feel happy for her?).

She cornered me and got me to hold her baby, it revolted me, it looked alien, its bald head, clammy smell, dribbling gash for a mouth there all wrinkled and pathetic reaching out its maggot like fingers with spastic like movements, I smiled through it and feigned enthusiasm and quickly handed it back to her.
She then went on, and on, and on about how wonderful it was to be a mother. I felt a rage building up inside me, how could she be so stupid? she hadnt achieved anything; this was just nature doing what it always does, she was no better than a sow sh*tting out a litter of piglets or a fungal spore germinating and growing into an outbreak of athletes foot, how could she be so weak as to give in to her basest hormones and feel so proud about it? I felt like slapping her and dashing her kids brains out on the floor in front of her just to teach her not to be such a f**king pathetic b**ch.

I could go on but I scare myself.

I really wish I didnt feel like this, sometimes I feel like such a horrible human being, like theres something dead or missing inside of me. Am I a bad person? Is this normal?

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Based on 76 votes (26 yes)
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Comments ( 17 )
  • Bayte

    YOU ARE DISGUSTING

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  • tylerD1977

    Uh, what about your mother? Was she a pathetic b*tch for pushing you out of her? I think you might wanna talk to someone about this. It seems like you have a serious issue with one of the most rewarding and beautiful parts of being a human being. I think you might end up missing out on some things that later you might regret. I'm guessing you've been damaged somehow to feel this way with such passion. Just my two cents. I guess as long as you like your life and this is not holding you back, then maybe it's fine. But, if you feel bad enough about feeling bad, then maybe you should talk to someone, try and figure out WHY you feel this way. My vote is NOT normal.

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  • mmcl0417

    You do not have to put up with people going on and on about their children - it's perfectly okay to say I really don't like kids. However, to be so 100%% raging over having a baby is not good. My son was my greatest gift to my husband - that is what kids are supposed to be, the ultimate expression of love and giving of yourself. Maybe you are upset over the multitude of people just having kids because they are supposed too, not because they really are wanted. Or maybe you're jealous because you can't have one yourself?

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  • wooops

    I can completely understand your feelings. I tend to be more repulsed by ugly people's kids, but yeah, I think having children is pretty selfish and unremarkable. I lightened up about it quite a bit when my sister had a baby, and am now that I'm getting older, fighting back my own motherly urges. I think nature will probably get the best of me someday, but I think your feelings are pretty normal.

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  • Ibelievethis

    The thought of giving birth freaks me out,too. I gave birth by cecerean section. I think if I had to push my daughter would have still been in my tummy now, and breast feeding for me was a definate no no. I hate the way midwives try and force in on you. (my body, my child, my choice) and as for breast feeding in public because it is one of the most natural things in the world which of course it is, but so is making love, but you can't do that in public. but absolutly women should never be made to feel uncomfortable about breast feefing in public and that is so wrong on all levels)x

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  • Gardenia

    ..wow. You must of have a very disturbing childhood.
    I feel sorry for you, you need help... Sorry.

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  • VoLoPoK

    kill the sick ones

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  • 1u5t

    you need to see a doctor!

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  • randomjelly

    It's normal to not like kids...but to repress the urge to kill it? You're fucked up like a soup sandwich.

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  • BfingIToucher

    I think you already know that this strong of a negative reaction is not normal. Simply not liking babies and kids and all that goes with it is not what you are describing. Get some help.

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  • Kimikazee

    I feel the same. Yay, you had sex then shat out a kid. Good for you! Doesn't mean I think your kid is special, and no, I don't want to hear stories about your kids or see pictures. I love kids! I just don't want them shoved in my face all the time.

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  • tygeronherbed

    babies are beautiful and sweet, i could never understand someone hating them like you do. i mean its one thing to not want kids of your own, but to be repulsed my mothers and hate that they are proud of their children is kind of just...sickening...

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    • tygeronherbed

      by* not MY

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  • gaelicwolf

    You should have let her know right there and then that, NO, you do NOT want to hold her baby. If it happens again, you should make yourself clear.

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  • anxietyme

    You where a baby once and people cooed over you, changed your diapers and fed you. I dont know if its that you cant have kids are what.. I have 3 and I don't really like other kids but I would never tell them they shouldnt have been born.. And it feals like thats what your saying. Do you want humans to become extinct? We where all babbies once and all hopefully got the same treatment.. I dont know what happenned in your life to hate babbies.....

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  • lisha590

    Idk u have problems

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  • ScottsWifey

    I know u don't like baby's but u were one on the past and it is normal to feel this way but ur to O.D with it maybe u r just sad and lonely that u can't get a boyfriend and have a kid baby's r special and wen ur pregnant u bond with ur baby right away if u ever get pregnant u will love that kid and be like all the other mothers

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