Overprotective/controlling parents?

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My parents never let me go out of the house. All I ever went out for was school. They never let me go out and do outdoor activities because it is a waste of money and time, but neither did I have any real friends to go out with anyway (I'm not sure if it's because of this.) I eventually developed depression and anxiety because I was always alone, but my parents told me I wasn't crazy and denied that I had a problem. Now I am an adult, even for going to town I have to have a proper reason. When I try to argue them out, it never works, they just complain back and I grew tired of arguing. The only freedom I do have is College (and I purposely chose a faraway College). Being back home again makes me sad and helpless.

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  • WayOutThere
    14 years ago

    Yes, you seem to have overprotective and controlling parents. There is not much you can do about that; parents usually believe what they are doing is right and good for you. They can only do what they have learned themselves.

    Now that you are an adult, I would suggest you leave home as soon as you reasonably can. It is good that you chose a college far away. Try to live on campus, in residences, where there is the greatest concentration of other students. This will make it easier for you to socialize with others.

    My mother was fairly controller and overprotective, and I had to spend a lot of time at home, on my own. As she was a music teacher, I was required to play a musical instrument, practicing several hours a day. And, my outdoor time was quite limited. Going to a college, far away from home, was one of the best things I ever did.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I hate my family i want them to die when i close 18 i'am going to leave my house i prefer to live to the mountains.

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  • randomperson1000000
    9 years ago

    nothing I hate more than overprotective parents

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  • ThatKidTotallyRocks
    12 years ago

    I'm in the same situation. I've also developed a severe case of anxiety. I can't even talk to my parents normally anymore because I feel like I'm so trapped. I'm 23, by the way.

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  • magicspicer
    12 years ago

    This is good becuase it shows they care about you and your saftey. If it gets too bad. Talk to them about it, you can organise mabey an hour where you go out with your friends. Organise stuff with your parents to satisfy both of you.

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  • lilrebel80
    13 years ago

    They just care about you, my parents are like that 2

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Exactly same here:(

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  • b454
    13 years ago

    That sucks. It does more harm than good. They have some issues that they took out on you. I'd stay away as long as possible.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Nice,zeke.Just move out!!!

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  • zekethewolfy
    14 years ago

    *pounds fist in palm* set em straight ............... in a game a chess!

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Well hold on to wanting to go out, have friends, healthy activities and a life. Yes, being denied these normal human needs could affect your mental health. Did you do these things when you were away at college and out from under their shadow?

    Consider counseling support through your Dr. or faith community, or whatever, to help with, for example, these feelings, this family conflict and making a plan. Include a plan to leave & being on your own.

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