Orientation camp blues

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Hello everyone,
I had an orientation camp for my university and i felt really uncomfortable and demoralised in many occassions during the camp.
These moments were when everyone was having a conversation and i found it really hard to join in the converstation; for a few reasons. One, I am afraid people will show disinterest in my participation in conversation( which will really hurt me as i am a really senstive guy), two i am afraid that speaking as my true self (which i believe is widely advised and that is to act as urself), people will find me weird or be turned off by my personalty. When i do join in( when i force myself to), I feel awkward when speaking, I dun maintain eye conatact, I become insensitive to everybody's emotions(whether they are interested in my conversations or not) as i try to alleviate the any possible blows to my self-esteem.
On the other hand I can maintain a regular converstaion with person 1 on 1 which is when i will feel much more comfortable.
Is there a problem with me ? Thanks for ur views!

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  • countrybumkin
    12 years ago

    groups suck because they can turn on you like a pack but you need to fly a flag somewhere to find those people you get along with once you acheive this then you get the one on one time to develop good relationships. good luck

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  • xxjenxx
    13 years ago

    normal. SOME people have it easier though. i don't know how old you are but me by 18-19, i started getting a more sure of myself speaking in front of a group. 25 now, and i still am a LITTLE uneasy. i get all nervous when my boss has to speak to me!!! although i'm kind of new at the workplace...yeah, just an example.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    No, you are normal & I think you just need more experience to build your confidence.

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  • squeezebox2009
    14 years ago

    You are with out a doubt normal. I would suggest you join an activity or group to help you meet new people though.

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  • Crazydiamond
    14 years ago

    Everyone feels the same in these situations. If you speak to say 10 people and 9 of them think you're weird but the tenth doesn't then that's fine, not everyone you meet will necessarily like you, you just need to find the people who do think like you. People who don't like you for being who you are aren't worth knowing anyway. I've always found it easier getting to know people one-to-one than in a group anyway.

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