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so, my bf is a computer science major and I probably should've seen this coming. We've been together since 9th grade and now we are in college.
We both grew up in a poor neighborhood and we were both very unmotivated to stay in school. I am at a community college and he lives in UCI now.
SO, the issue..
he is unmotivated to continue his studies because he has been failing some classes and I can't seem to cheer him up since I am currently going through depression from previous abuse. He says he understands but is very frustrated that he is always turning to his friend and not me. Seems like im never around anymore and he is growing accustomed to ranting to his friend and being more above me (UNI vs CC) now that it's been me struggling for 3 years. I take in his advice but i seem to push people away, so it is more of my own issue.

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  • Meowypowers
    4 years ago

    You sound needy, you can't fix someone else until you fix yourself.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      oh stfu, im not threatening, im just depressed. ur the asshole here.

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  • SunSnow
    4 years ago

    Relationship means understanding
    Communication and trust.
    Guys say they are unmotivated and expect others to motivate them if you Don't they'll blame you for failure.

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  • NormalAdventure
    4 years ago

    I'm not clear on the issue other than it sounds like depression is the monkey on your back. If all you need to solve your issues and get back in the saddle is to be rid of your depression, then take a day off, go somewhere awesome and try some magic mushrooms. Here one day and the next it's gone. (hopefully) Then the not-depressed you, can take it from there with a new attitude.

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    • Fugazi,again
      4 years ago

      Exactly

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  • CDmale4fem
    4 years ago

    I think you should just focus on yourself and your classes. Realizing that in the long run, if it seems shaky that he will be around, you will have yourself and probably a few close friends. I'm a guy and from experience of he feels like you are not satisfying him somehow then he will more than likely be easily swayed to another. Just sayin.

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  • controversy
    4 years ago

    Take antidepressants for ur depression.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      oh stfu

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  • woahtherepardner
    4 years ago

    You did mention that you were dealing with problems of your own, which is sensible to do before taking care of others. But in the meantime, he still needed a shoulder to lean on, which is why he's grown accustomed to ranting to his friend.

    If you feel you're ready to take on the emotional toll of another person, then sure, you can rebuild the ranting to each other. If not, then you'll simply have to keep fixing your own problems before being able to support your boyfriend.

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