Opinion on cunnlingus?

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Whether you call it Cunnilingus, Eating Out, Going Down on a girl, or oral sex... what's your opinion on this taboo act?

Personally, I find it gross, and as a female I have stopped past boyfriends from ever preforming it on me. I'm too self conscious about myself and it's not my cup of tea...

Although I have no probably giving a blowjob, I just think there are too many gross fluids involved in cunnilingus.

What's your opinion? (If the poll doesn't cover your opinion, feel welcome to leave a comment!)

(Female) I enjoy getting it! 23
(Female) If I do stuff for the guy, I think I deserve it! 3
(Female) Depends on the guy 3
(Female) I don't want it done to me! (Gross) 2
(Male) I enjoy giving it! 56
(Male) If she does stuff for me, I'll do it to her. 6
(Male) Depends on the Girl 10
(Male) I don't give it. (Gross) 2
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  • NothingxCrazy
    11 years ago

    Any women against this must not like being pleasured in any sense of the word. Pro-cunn!

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    • suckonthis9
      11 years ago

      Couldn't have said it better myself.
      Still, many males (and sometimes even females) do not perform this act correctly. [Before I hear it; there is no 'right way', you need to find out what pleasures your partner the most. However, some people are just in the totally wrong place, and only think they know what they're doing!]

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      • NothingxCrazy
        11 years ago

        If you know the female anatomy, you know how to pleasure a woman at least to some extent. Sure, there are many ways to make it better, but the general idea is there. Men (and women interested in performing) should be doing their homework if they don't want to look foolish, anyway.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    Delightful.

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  • DannyKanes
    11 years ago

    Confession time: I love going down on a woman, if she'll let me :)

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  • oicuwantit2
    11 years ago

    Words cant describe how much I love giving it. If just a taste or completely getting her off with my mouth, it is a "must-have". My wife doesnt understand why I like it, and frequently denies me the privilage. It does create a bit of trouble for me that the thing I enjoy most is the one thing I get the least. I say work on your self conscious issue enough, so that, at the very least, he can truly enjoy you for himself,even it you arent enjoying it.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    First off, it's not TABOO.

    Second, it's a very effective form of foreplay and some girls can't orgasm at all except with oral sex.

    Third, it sounds like you may need to talk to someone about your irrational "fear" of the "grossness" of oral sex. Did some guy try it and make it feel not that great? or have you never tried it?

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    • Naamah
      11 years ago

      "Did some guy try it and make it feel not that great?"
      If a woman calls her vaginal lubrication "gross fluids" how can it be caused by a guy's sexual skills? I don't understand why is it that if a woman doesn't like something sexual, many people always start thinking that it might be because of a guy. I can't see why they are always looking for a guy to blame to avoid admitting that the woman's sexual aversion may be just a reflection of her poor sexuality. I am not saying that you are doing this and blaming a guy, it was just and association I had, lol.

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        I probably should have put that line in a new paragraph lol, I wanted to know if she just had an aversion from the start or if she'd tried it and it didn't do it for her (this can be from the guy, some girls prefer the clit others prefer tongue penetration, that's not the guys fault but if he's doing the one she doesn't prefer best case scenario is she finds it boring. If the girl knows she should tell him what she prefers)

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    I love both cunnilingus and anilingus.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Taboo??

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    • howaminotmyself
      11 years ago

      That was my thought.

      Taboo? Where is this prohibited by society because I don't ever want to go there.

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        I didn't even read the rest of it. I got to ' taboo' and was like huh????

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        • Naamah
          11 years ago

          I guess it's worth reading further as it's pretty escalating! You will be told that cunnilingus is not only "taboo" but also "gross"...

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          • dirtybirdy
            11 years ago

            Oh I see. It seems the op is too self conscious. That's the real problem here.

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            • Naamah
              11 years ago

              I think that using words like "gross" when referring to cunnilingus and vaginal lubrication indicates some issues with oral which are worse than self-consciousness - SEXUAL AVERSION to receiving oral sex. Not much fun with people who have this - at least for me...

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  • CollegeIsNotAsAwesomeAsIImagin
    11 years ago

    Holy crap a bunch of virgins just got into an argument

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    • lufa
      11 years ago

      lol

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  • kinklu
    11 years ago

    I love dining at the "Y". I can spend literally hours and have. "Bodily fluids" merely make it sweeter.

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  • oliveyou
    11 years ago

    I like giving it and I like receiving it from other women, my bf isn't very good at it though so I don't like receiving it from him

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Can you explain the definition of "Cunnlingus"?

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    God I love it! To this day, when I see a pretty 20-something woman, I wonder what her "thing" looks like, and my mouth begins to water. Mmmm.

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  • disfunkshinal
    11 years ago

    Oh my gosh. You are missing out so much. I practically demand it as foreplay and sometimes, on special occasions, get it until orgasm. Warning: If your partner is bad, you'll have a bad time.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    Fun fun fun.

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  • prasatko
    11 years ago

    Why do you think it is a taboo act? It can be taboo in some relationships where the woman does not let their partners do it - as it is a taboo in your relationships but it does not mean that it is a taboo in other relationships where the woman does not refuse this act.

    I am a male and I love cunnilingus and if my partner did not let me do it, it would be a dealbreaker and I would not waste my time with such a prude or with such a frigid and sexophobic girl. If you think that it is gross, then you think that your vagina and its fluids are gross and sex with you must be really horrible.

    In my life I have met several women who refused oral sex (both giving and receiving) and sex with them was horrible, they were something like sexless beings and it was a waste of time to be with them. They found everything sexual to be gross.

    If a woman stops her boyfriends from cunnilingus, it is the most reliable signal that she is a shitty deadfish in bed. If you find cunnilingus gross, it is certain that I would find sex with you just a waste of time or money or whatever, a totally empty and unenjoyable experience.

    After a few relationships with frigid girls refusing cunnilingus and oral sex in general (giving or receiving, all was equally gross to those frigid prudes), I am lucky that now I am with a woman who loves both receiving as well as giving oral sex - all kinds of sexual acts are much more pleasurable with her.

    To sum up, my attitude to cunnilingus is completely different from yours. I just hope that your past boyfriends have found a better woman who lets them perform oral sex and they probably see the sex life with you as a mistake and a bad nightmare when they look back into their past.

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    • charli.m
      11 years ago | pl

      Wow. Nice way to totally attack the OP for having an opinion different to yours.

      You make yourself sound like much less of a catch than anyone.

      Calling her a mistake, frigid, "you must be really horrible", a bad nightmare..wtf dude? You make it sound like she's scum. Just bwcause someone isn't what you like sexually, doesn't completely invalidate them as a human or a sexual being.

      You make yourself sound more closed minded and unappealing than a woman who isn't interested in receiving oral sex.

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      • Naamah
        11 years ago

        What the OP presented is not not a mere opinion but SEXUAL AVERSION to cunnilingus and to bodily fluids produced by her vagina! If someone calls vaginal lubrication which goes hand in hand with sexual arousal and sexual pleasure "gross fluids", it says something about the person's attitudes to sexual matters if you like it or not.
        Personally, I tend to agree to a great extend with prasatko because according to my own experience, there seems to be a correlation between a person's attitude to oral sex (receiving or giving) and their overall quality as a sexual partner. The more negative the attitude to receiving oral sex my partners had, the worse the sex with them was also in other respect - even in those which are not directly connected with oral sex. On the other hand, the more positive attitude to receiving (or to giving) oral sex, the better the person was in bed in general. Like it or not and call it my mere opinion but it is the opinion formed on the basis of my experience with partners who have had very different attitudes to oral sex and varied to a great extend in their ability to enjoy it!

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        • charli.m
          11 years ago

          What you have said is now without the loaded language.

          As said to prasatko, this was my issue with what he had said. He turned from what could have been a simple "I don't agree, this is how I see it" to a very negative and demeaning reply to the OP.

          From MY experience, women who view this as taboo or gross, probably have self esteem or body issues. How is telling her she is sexually insufficient helpful? How is saying that all her previous lovers (should she have had them) must think she was a horrible lover and be glad to be rid of her, helpful? It demeans her. It probably makes her feel much, much worse about herself. Yes, she put her opinion out on IIN, which means she should be open to oposing opinions. But it does NOT mean she should be attacked.

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          • Naamah
            11 years ago

            "From MY experience, women who view this as taboo or gross, probably have self esteem or body issues"
            Although you might be right that women who view cunnilingus as taboo or gross may have self esteem or body issues BUT low self esteem and body issues WITHOUT problematic attitude to sexual matters and one's own sexuality are not likely to cause SEXUAL AVERSION to cunnilingus. Such serious problem with this is indicative of SEXUAL ISSUES.
            I've low self esteem and suffered from eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia) for years in the past but I have never felt bad about someone going down on me and I've always loved that. But I've always loved sex in general and my attitudes to sexual matters are absolutely positive so it may be different...

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            • charli.m
              11 years ago

              "low self esteem and body issues WITHOUT problematic attitude to sexual matters and one's own sexuality are not likely to cause SEXUAL AVERSION to cunnilingus. Such serious problem with this is indicative of SEXUAL ISSUES."

              Thank you for your pointlessly circular statement on the matter.

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      • prasatko
        11 years ago

        1.stop putting my words out of context - I did not say "you must be horrible" - I said "SEX with you must be horrible". Just read what you comment on, please and do not misinterpret me.
        2.If I do not like women who stop their partners from performing oral sex, you call me "close minded". How do you call the OP who thinks that bodily fluids are gross and that cunnilingus is a taboo? She is probably sexually liberated and open minded sex goddess in your asexual eyes.
        3.I do not care if I sound like a good or bad catch for antisex users of IIN. I just answered this question in the original post honestly, not as a way to attract women with aversion to cunnilingus or guys deformed by political correctness.
        3.By the way, you make yourself sound like a perfect catch for everyone who is grossed out by oral sex. Hopefully, no woman will ever let you taste her "gross fluids".

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      • prasatko
        11 years ago

        1.stop putting my words out of context - I did not say "you must be horrible" - I said "SEX with you must be horrible". Just read what you comment on, please and do not misinterpret me.
        2.If I do not like women who stop their partners from performing oral sex, you call me "close minded". How do you call the OP who thinks that bodily fluids are gross and that cunnilingus is a taboo? She is probably sexually liberated and open minded sex goddess in your asexual eyes.
        3.I do not care if I sound like a good or bad catch for antisex users of IIN. I just answered this question in the original post honestly, not as a way to attract women with aversion to cunnilingus or guys deformed by political correctness.
        3.By the way, you make yourself sound like a perfect catch for everyone who is grossed out by oral sex. Hopefully, no woman will ever let you taste her "gross fluids".

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        • prasatko
          11 years ago

          Or if you are a female (which is quite possible) then I hope that nobody will try to do this "nasty, dirty and gross" thing to you and they will keep their gentlemanly Victorian manners in your bedroom and fulfil their "gross desires" elsewhere.

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          • charli.m
            11 years ago

            1. You are entitled to your opinion, but you did not merely state yours, you attacked her as an individual. Your protestations that you did not attack her but were merely stating your personal preferences are palpable self-deluding nonsense.

            2. "I just hope that your past boyfriends have found a better woman who lets them perform oral sex and they probably see the sex life with you as a mistake and a bad nightmare when they look back into their past." - yep. That's totally not an attack. Well done, you.

            3. "I was not an insincere asshole". Sure were an arsehole, though. (There you go, I have now put in the personal attack you have already accused me of. Happy now?)

            4. My comment was not meant as a personal attack, I apologise if it came across that way. I said that you "sound like" and you "make yourself sound like more" - ie your projection of yourself comes across as negative. Nowhere did I say that you WERE a bad catch etc. I don't know you personally, now, do I? I would not presume so much.

            5. "I did not invalidate her as a human being but I invalidated her as a sexual partner for someone like me. This is not any offence, it is a fact"

            Again, I quote from your first post ""I just hope that your past boyfriends have found a better woman who lets them perform oral sex and they probably see the sex life with you as a mistake and a bad nightmare when they look back into their past." That is not just "for someone like you" - do you assume all men are like you? I mentioned this to a friend who was all riled up to join the site and comment telling you what he thought of you, only then he saw my reply and thought it said what he thought. And believe me, he is not a sexually repressed man.

            6. When did I ever state my opinions on cunnilingus being "taboo", or even anything that the OP said? Is that not putting words in my mouth? When did I ever say the OP was "sexually liberated and open minded godess"? i I don't tend to comment on my sexuality here, and that is as valid a position as yours to comment on your own.

            7. I am not asexual. I have quite healthy sexual interests, which go beyond vanilla sex. I just don't feel like discussing them with the world, and I reserve my right to that.

            8. I am aware you don't care if you sound like a good or bad catch for IIN users, "anti sex" or otherwise. I've seen you are in a relationship in your other comments. Clearly, you are someone's good catch. But your attitude makes you sound (again, MAKES YOU SOUND, not MAKES YOU) incredibly negative, not to mention aggressive.

            9. Thank you for your concern about my sex life. As a straight woman, I have no concern with tasting a woman's...uh..."gross fluids". And what I choose to do with my partners is something for me to negotiate with them. What we do or do not do sexually is for us to decide on, and does not make us any less or more of sexual beings, than what you choose to do being any less or more of a sexual being.

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            • prasatko
              11 years ago

              The fact that I wrote "I hope your past boyfriends..." was not a personal attack, it was the expression of my empathy with people (i.e. her past bf). I did not write "I hope you will suffer or something", I just wished all the best (or at least something better) to her past boyfriends who were sexually frustrated by her unwillingness to let them do oral sex.

              Of course I do not suppose that all men are like me. The OP might be an ideal partner for those men who do not like oral sex or who wind female genitals gross. Again, I hope she will find some of those men as her partners and that she will be happy. The same as when I wish her past bf would find someone sexually compatible with them.

              Yes, I noticed that you did not say anything relevant to the OP´s question, I just assumed that you do not mind her closemindedness (oral sex - taboo, genital fluids - gross) when you did not comment on it and you just mentioned my closemindedness.

              I do not know whether I am a negative person or not. In many areas of my life I am extremely tolerant and people who know me personally cannot usually imagine me being angry or aggressive (as they say to me and I am not very proud of it). Here I feel that I can openly express also some feelings that are maybe strong to someone´s taste, but I just expressed the way how I feel about women who refuse cunnilingus - and I still think that sex with them is horrible for me and I still think that her past boyfriends deserve partners who would be better for them.

              Your sexual life is your private things, so you are right, there is no need to discuss it here. But I am entitled to the impression that your words MAKE YOU SOUND as if you do not let your partner perform cunnilingus. But this is really none of my business and I do not care about your sexual likes and dislikes. You did not ask me about my attitude to your sexual issues. The OP did and I gave my answer to HER, not to you. And I still hope that her past boyfriends will have happier sexual life with someone who is open to cunnilingus. You showed a lot of empathy for the OP, I showed my empathy for her ex-boyfriends and offered her a perspective which might be closer to their perspective, not hers - it might help her see things also from the other side.

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      • prasatko
        11 years ago

        She wanted to hear people´s opinion and I expressed mine. Now you just attack me for expressing my opinion and my feelings towards her sexual aversion.

        Ok, I should have said: yes, it is normal, you are OK, everything is cool and groovy, we are all wonderful, I appreciate your individual way of being a unique human being. But I was not such an insincere asshole.

        Her aversion is politically correct. My aversion to her aversion is not. My criticism is bad. Your criticism and personal attacks on me are cool and OK.

        You might be very open minded and brave hero and fighter for the rights of frigid women. American hero, fuck you!!!!

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        • prasatko
          11 years ago

          Edit - stop putting my words out of context - I did not say "you must be horrible" - I said "SEX with you must be horrible". Just read what you comment on, please and do not misinterpret me. And I did not invalidate her as a human being but I invalidated her as a sexual partner for someone like me. This is not any offence, it is a fact.

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  • Naamah
    11 years ago

    It seems that the aversion to oral sex is very popular among IIN users accorging to thumb-ups and thumb-downs some comments received. Or is it just an antisex-women-support group operating here?

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    • prasatko
      11 years ago

      Both. It is not mutually exclusive. This antisex-women-support group consists of members who have aversion to oral sex. At least it sheds some light on the modern myth that in these days women are sexually open and how much they love cunnilingus and other Cosmopolitan fairy tales.

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